Why Women Cheat

The reasons most frequently cited for female infidelity include

• a desire for emotional closeness and intimacy (someone caring to confide in and bond with on an emotional level)
  
• a desire for attention (wanting be the center of a man’s attention again)
  
•  to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman)
  
• to re-experience feelings of romance
  
• a desire to feel “special”
  
• boredom
  
• loneliness
  
• sexual excitement

Men Cheat for Sexual Reasons, Women Cheat for Emotional Reasons

Granted, these are not the only reasons men and women cheat. There are other reasons as well.  But the bottom line is that men are cheating on their wives primarily for sexual reasons, while women are cheating on their husbands mainly for emotional reasons. But these are the most frequently given by cheating husbands and cheating wives who are willing to discuss their extramarital affairs.

Numerous studies on infidelity bear that out.  In one study, 75% to 80% of the men who admitted to having extramarital affairs said that sex was the primary reason.  Only 20% of the woman who were having extramarital affairs said they did so for purely sexual reasons. 

How More Marriages Could be Saved

The most amazing thing about the studies is that the majority of infidelity victims (70% of married women and 54% of married men) have no idea their spouse is having an extramarital affair. 

In another study, 60% of the people who admitted that they were cheating, said their partner did not know about their affair.  This leads me to conclude that if more people knew how to recognize the warning signs of infidelity, more marriages could be saved.  The first step to solving a problem is knowing that the problem exists.  To receive a FREE Report with details on the major signs of infidelity, entitled “21  Categories of Telltale Signs, send an e-mail to InfidelityInfo(at)gmail.com  with “Infidelity Signs” in the subject line.

© 2005 Ruth Houston

About Ruth Houston:

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the author of Is He Cheating on You?- 829 Telltale Signs, a comprehensive guide which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. She has been quoted in the New York Times, the Toronto Sun, the New York Post, Cosmopolitan, the Christian Science Monitor, the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, Marie Claire and numerous other publications here and abroad.  Ruth has also been a guest on over 100 radio and TV talk shows in the US, Europe, the Caribbean and South America including  Good Day New York, 1010WINS,  TalkAmerica, the Mike Gallagher Show,  Telemundo, BBC, ClearChannel, The Breakfast Club, and Caracol Radio Network.  In addition to researching and writing about infidelity, Ruth also conducts infidelity seminars for women’s organizations, and does individual infidelity consultations.