I wish I never wrote A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation. I wish I never heard of parental alienation. If I had my way, I would have spent the last few years being a father to my son — happily oblivious to the pain and heartbreak parental alienation was inflicting on countless parents, children and extended family members all over the world.
But as someone once said to me, “Life is what happens to you when you are planning your life.”
I was Dr. Joel Davies’ client the first time I heard the phrase parental alienation. I sat in his office describing the change in my young son’s behavior at my soon-to-be ex-wife’s urging. I was heartbroken and confused. I was also angry. I was discovering that most of the legal and mental health professionals involved in my case had never heard of parental alienation, and many of those who had heard of it weren’t interested in doing anything more than give lip service to the phrase, “best interests of the child.”
Dr. Davies introduced me to parental alienation that day. Months later I was sitting in his office again. Time had reduced the initial pain of being an alienated parent to a dull ache. I was learning to live with the ache; but I was still angry. More parents and children were becoming victims of alienation every day, yet I never heard parental alienation mentioned in divorce, child custody and parenting discussions on television, in print and on the web.
I wrote A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation with Dr. Davies to help parents, legal and mental health professionals deal with this very destructive family dynamic.