Self improvement is something we choose to do when one day we look in the mirror and say, “I want to learn how to be a better person.” “I want to take control of my life.” “I want to display traits that others find uplifting and complementary.” Well anyway, that’s how it happened to me. I saw things in others that I new I didn’t like and I seen those same things in me. This is when I new I didn’t like myself the way I was, I wanted more out of life.
How I became successful at this was to look where everyone looks when they are eager to learn and change, to others. I new what characteristics and values I liked when I seen them in someone I admired and I knew I wanted to be happier. I also knew that for the most part, I always would dwell on negative thoughts and this certainly did not contribute to any happiness, it was more like depression. So I took what I new, and for the next 28 years I researched what made people unhappy and how this could be reversed and of course, I used myself as the test subject.
Soul searching became my obsession. The first thing that I learned was about positive thinking and positive perception. I learned that positive thinking is not a natural gift it is a learned process of thought. This takes time, determination and most importantly, the willingness to not fall prey to the negativity that surrounds you. I chose two improvements that I wanted to make in my life and placed all of my focus on continuously practicing these behaviors. Once they became natural to me, I moved on to new improvements I wanted to make. This began to snowball. With all of the positive changes, there became no room in my life for the negative.
My other strong focus became directed towards stress since this seemed to be the culprit of many negative thought patterns as was fear. I accumulated thousands of hours of knowledge while feeding my hunger on this subject. You could tell my sharp interest in these topics through college since the only courses I received straight A’s in from day one to the end was psychology. I took the other classes just because they insisted.
My obsession turned into my passion to share the knowledge of these topics with others who seek to find inner happiness and outer success. Now, after all of this research, observation, self analysis, and somewhere between thousands and hundreds of thousands of hours of thought, interpretation and trial and error, I would like to bypass my errors and share my successes so that others can take a shortcut. I want to empower others to find inner peace, happiness and success in their journey through life. To love the way they feel with no more self doubt, no more worry, no more fear or feeling helpless, insecure or inferior to others, and above all with these changes – no more placing any of life’s unneeded stress on yourself.