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When We Judge Others...
By S. J. Reisner   
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Last edited: Monday, August 29, 2005
Posted: Monday, August 29, 2005


Most of our censure of others is only oblique praise of self, uttered to show the wisdom and superiority of the speaker. It has all the insidiousness of self-praise, and all the ill-desert of falsehood.
~Tyron Edwards

Or as my mother always told me growing up [when other kids teased me], "What people say is wrong with you is most likely what's wrong with themselves."

I used to do this in my younger years. I would criticize those who disagreed with me to show how much better I was. Upon further reflection -- I had that same negative trait that I had criticized them for having. It's interesting how the human psyche works.

Insults are really nothing more than a coping mechanism people use to protect themselves from the things they fear are true , don't want to believe, or simply don't believe. It's how they keep themselves safe from themselves because the most frightening thing of all is to look into the mirror with eyes wide open and see into the self.

The self is not always a pretty place. It is laden with envy, greed, anger, self-righteousness, conceit, and a myriad of other "flaws" we would all like to think we have never possessed. I am no different. I've been greedy, rude, self-righteous, angry, vindictive, selfish etc... at various times in my life or within certain situations. We all have. It's called being human. Perfection is possessed by no man or woman. We all have choices to allow what we deem negative traits to rule us because we are all blessed with free will. Basically - each person can *try* to not allow these behaviors to become a permenant part of our personality. That doesn't necessarily mean we'll succeed.

So when we judge others perhaps we should step back for a moment and judge our judging. Are we being fair? Or are we acting on a double standard? After all, you cannot condemn a man for drinking from the well that you drink from every morning.   


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Reviewed by Lisa Adams 8/30/2005
Excellent points, S.J. and thank you. You are the best. :)
Reviewed by Jennifer Butler 8/30/2005
Perhaps we have all wanted to be pure at heart and in our actions at all times but have simply failed to achieve the perfect self.
Reviewed by Betty Torain 8/29/2005
A very helpful write. It is so easy to speak what we don't like about ourselves. I will be careful this day to be swift to hear and sow to speak. Thank you.
Reviewed by Hiren Shah 8/29/2005
It is said that we do not see the world as it is but as we are. That is the most important thing to be kept in mind. Besides the other person is in a totally different world- how can one evaluate another person's life experiences with his mind and self belief. Spirituality therefore advocates being non-judgmnental.


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