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Traimatic Addictions
By Mary Carmen Newton   
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Last edited: Monday, November 26, 2007
Posted: Monday, November 26, 2007

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I am now a recovering alcoholic. I gave up with assistance on the 14 Oct 2006 If I can do so can you

Traumatic Addictions

Many people resist personal traumatic experience such as divorce, serious illness, resentment at work or loosing a job, and the death of a loved one. The fact that alcohol is available everywhere and widely advertise in the media as the sound of having a good time helps to disguise the fact that alcohol is also a drug with potential to cause harm.

I started drinking heavy at the age of 30. Before then I only drank socially.

It started when my husband deserted me for another and 2months later my eldest of three a daughter came up with a brain tumour

I had no support as my family lived in Europe. A strong sense of fear struck me and I started drinking heavily to build up strength to see it all through and be there for my daughter she was only nine then.

The doctors and surgeons said that it was an impossible task and my daughter had only 1% to survive it (which meant she might die under the operation), her tumour was centred in the middle at the back of her head It was a mama with plenty of growth roots surrounding every part of the back of her head. Her treatment went on and on for many years. And every time I had to be strong and powerful for my three children who then were 1year old, 4 years old both boys and my daughter who was nine.

I pulled through but the drinking got heavier. I was drinking $700 dollars worth of alcohol weekly in the year 1978.

The fact that alcohol is available everywhere and widely advertise in the media as the sound of having a good time and to hide any fear or emotional disappointment helps to disguise the fact that alcohol is also a drug with potential to cause harm.

Drinking too much lead me to serous social and economic problems and took effect on my mental and physical health, relationships and even work. The effects of drink remained unchecked until my serous addiction developed.

Alcohol is a drug that acts as a depressant and affects every organ in our body. It does not stimulate our brains but it actually slows the central nervous system including the brain.

Alcohol is absorbed into the blood stream from the stomach and moves to the liver, where it is broken down into Acetaldehyde, which is a poison that is strong enough doses, and can damage the brain.

Getting smashed became a habit and I had to drink every time a problem arose my brain was in the mist of getting damage, alcohol poisoning, violence and other accidents not leaving out drowning on many occasions

Addiction alcohol interfered with the ability of my human mind to function normally. With just as little as 10 years of heavy alcohol abuse the significant physical and the drinking caused me much emotional problems. The alcohol continued to interfere for as long as the alcohol continued the disease gets worse.

Alcoholism is an incurable disease. If you only know what it does to the brain! Itís a sedative and it works by putting the brain tissues to sleep. Some, will go insane and wind up with physical brain damage, others will die.

You can never be rid of alcoholism or drugging all we can do is learning to control it.

It is when instincts were warped and bent out of shape it led me deeper into trouble, for every distortion brought me pain. I was becoming aware of the reaction to what happened to me, things that I remember and felt the pain of embarrassment, fear, and guilt.

No one is capable of remembering every incident that happened in our life especially those problems that were created as a result of our drinking. My negative feelings had wrecked me spiritually, mentally, and physically.

I buried my defects under thick layers of self-justification that have finally ambushed me into alcoholism and misery.

Taking Over
The idea of making a decision to give up drinking terrified me.
I was telling myself ďDecisions donít mean that I must suddenly change everything about the way I live my life. Changes require participation. I donít have to be afraid. I must turn my will and my life over to the care of God, and help me reach the simple decision to change my direction in life.

I needed to develop and practice skills such as responsibility, communications, empathy, and assertiveness.

One night arrived when I was drinking heavy I went in front of the mirror and as I looked at the image of myself I spoke out loud ď I hate youĒ ď you are so ugly Ē then I reached out for the scissors and chopped all my over the shoulders length of hair.

That was it! I knew then it was time for me to give it up. I had to stop and stop now. I picked up the phone and called Detox for help. I was admitted the next morning.
I spend 15 days in Detox and 4 months in the resident recover for alcoholics. It was hard. I felt I was being treated like shit and like a child having to do as I was told. Many times I wanted to run away and forget the whole thing. But I kept reminding myself. I am here for one reason and one reason only (thatís to give up drinking and have a chance of a respectable life). And with God and Luck on my side I will stand a very good chance. I kept reminding myself I came this far Iíve embarrassed myself I lost my dignity I have to keep going forward and never look back again.

Addiction to alcohol interferes with the ability of the human mind to function normally. Alcohol abuse is significantly physical and the drinking causes emotional problems. The alcohol continues to interfere as long as the alcoholic continues to drink.

People have always had the occasional drink, but particularly amongst young people getting drunk had become the expected way to socialize. It's a worrying trend that needs to be addressed.

Drinking too much can lead to depression, serous social and economic problems and takes effect on our mental and physical health, relationships and even work. The effects of drink remain unchecked until a serous addiction develops.
Alcohol is a drug that acts as a depressant and affects every organ in our body. It does not stimulate our brains but it actually slows the central nervous system including the brain.
Alcohol is absorbed into the blood stream from the stomach and moves to the liver, where it is broken down into Acetaldehyde, which is a poison that is strong enough doses, and can damage the brain.

Alcoholism is an incurable disease. It's a sedative and it works by putting the brain tissues to sleep. Some, will go insane and wind up with physical brain damage, others will die.
It is when instincts are warped and bent out of shape that lead us into trouble, for every distortion brings pain. What you want to be aware of is your reaction to what happened to you, things that you remember and felt the pain of embarrassment, fear, and guilt. Don't let is scare or dissuade you, be honest and fearless to yourself.

No one is capable of remembering every incident that happened in our life so deal with the ones that you remember especially those problems that were created as a result of our drinking. Our negative feelings had wrecked us spiritually, mentally and physically. When you have figured out the first problem, then go one step forward and do something about it.
We buried our defects under thick layers of self-justification and have finally ambushed us into alcoholism and misery. Our honest appraisal is the first tangible evidence of our complete willingness to move forward, we must act our way into right thinking.

Recovery from addition is a life-long journey of long processes of unfolding journey.
A decision without action is meaningless, as we end up living a very lonely and self-absorbed existence. We need to differentiate between destructive self-will and constructive action. To drink or not to drink Be weary of that first drink for that first drink is what leads us to the second and heavy drinking is unstoppable. Do things that will help you stay clean?

Something happens that challenges everything we believe in and our understanding will undergo a dramatic change.
We will find ourselves able to face situations that used to strike fear in us; we will deal with frustrations more gracefully. You will find yourself calmer, less compulsive and see beyond the immediacy of the moment. Many of us have trouble letting go completely.

Willingness often comes in the wake of despair or a struggle for control. Faith propels us forward into action and give us the capacity to actually male a decision and carry it out into action. Trust comes into play after faith has been applied. It will increase our level of freedom and comforted by a loving God who is caring for our will and our lives and we will find we are on the right path. We will be willing to take risks we never had the courage to take before.

DEPRESSION

Depression can lead to drugging or alcohol as much as drugging or alcohol leads to depression
Sometimes people can suffer from symptoms that indicate that the feelings of being 'down'

The depressed person can be made to feel like they just don't make any effort, and this can cause further suffering and a deeper sense of depression. Often the person with depression is not aware of the symptoms themselves. They can feel embarrassed and because of this they wonít ask for help





Depression can happen for several reasons:
Reasons like a family break-up, child abuse, ongoing bullying at school, rape, the death of a friend or family member, a relationship break-up, family conflict, or several of these things happening close together.
Some women become depressed after they have a baby.
Sometimes there is no obvious reason.
Sometimes there can be a lack of certain chemicals in the brain. Neurotransmitters are chemicals in the brain that regulate mood.

Related Topics that could lead us to drinking, which leads us to depression, lack of sleep or sleep disorders

Anxiety disorders
Anxiety disorders are when anxious feelings are present much of the time, even when there is no obvious cause for them. A person may be continually uncomfortable and tense. Anxiety disorders are likely to be diagnosed when the anxiety and feelings of panic get in the way of normal life
The main symptom is excessive and persistent worry, causing feelings of being keyed up all the time, being easily tired, having difficulty concentrating, irritability, muscle tension and sleep problems. Young people may worry about school or sport performance, such as exams, so much that they are not able to do well.

Separation anxiety disorder

This type of anxiety disorder is more of a problem for children and younger people. They may feel extremely distressed when left at school or kindy. Sometimes they feel very scared that someone close to them (like their parent) might leave or be killed in a car accident or murdered or kidnapped. They may show their anxiety by crying and clinging or physical symptoms such as tummy pain, and they often have nightmares about separation. These children may refuse to go to school because their anxiety is causing them to feel unwell.

Panic disorder

People can experience panic in situations where most people would not be afraid. They can have many physical symptoms such as feeling faint or dizzy, blushing, having a rapid heart rate, difficulty breathing, sweating, abdominal pain and chest pain. With this goes a fear that the attack will lead to death or totally losing control.

When the panic has gone, there is an ongoing fear that the panic will come back. Fear of panic can lead them to stop doing things that might trigger a panic attack, such as going outside or going to certain places where they have had a panic attack. Young people who get panic attacks may have had trouble with fear when they were away from their parents when they were younger (separation anxiety).

Having boundaries is to protect and take care of us. A first step is to protect and defend ourselves, take responsibility of how we allow others to treat us.






Emotions are a form of internal communications that help us to understand and taking responsibility for our reality and ourselves. We have a right to our feelings and a right to speak up to ourselves.
We must learn to love our rights, our responsibility and ourselves
Once we have a good relationship with ourselves, everything changes.

The process of recovery teaches us how to set healthy boundaries It teaches us to be discerning in our choices, to be assertive and loving. Recovery owns and honour the emotional wounds release the grief energy, pain, shame and rage that is affecting us. Our disease and childhood wounds have dictated our behaviour.

In order to make setting boundaries possible it is necessary to communicate, share feelings, and negotiate agreements about behaviour. Few minutes each day cleaning out our thinking will keep us free from the infestation and troublesome thoughts. Doing so insures that an irritation does not transform into a deep resentment or hatred. Which leads us to depression which in turn leads to alcohol holding a grudge makes you obsessive, angry and depressed.

The more anger we experience within the more stress we're under. Motivate yourself to and let go.

It is truly a gift you give yourself


Mary C Newton
12th Nov 2007

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