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By Jay Watkins   
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Last edited: Thursday, January 13, 2011
Posted: Sunday, February 17, 2008

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A life tragedy has been turned into a purposeful mission!

You’re among the first to see this NEW special offer!


Greetings, Dear Reader!


If you’ll give me the next 3 ½ minutes, in return I’ll introduce you to a process that will open up an unbelievable new world of marital preparation resources for you and your loved ones! Fair Enough?


A little background:


My family has belonged to the Christian Faith for as long as I can remember. My father and mother served God according to their faith and belief in Christ as their personal savior. My four siblings (3 boys and 1 girl) and I were fortunate to have had the benefit of being raised as Adventist Youth. We were trained to appreciate serving our community as well as supporting worship services with our talents. Even today, especially in the Atlanta metropolitan area, my family members are well known musicians and leaders in various capacities of the church.


Being one of a very few families in the small town where we grew up who kept the Biblical Sabbath, we naturally developed strong family ties and an affection for each other that was only strengthened by time spent together on Friday evenings in family worship, Sabbath mornings in Sabbath school, and Sabbath afternoon AY meetings. Growing up Adventist had its challenges and growing pains, however, we all consider ourselves blessed to have been born into this ministry. As products of Adventist education and training, we continue to strive to serve God in various ministries which support the great commission of God’s End Time Church.


It was a sunny Sabbath afternoon back in January of 1996 when our family experienced the tragic loss of my father. My youngest brother and I rushed home after receiving a call from my mother that she could not awaken him. When we arrived at home “Daddy” still had a pulse, however, despite our efforts and those of the emergency services personnel who arrived a bit later, he was unable to be revived. I was the first to see him after his decease. His passing, while emotionally draining, caused us to draw closer to each other and to God who has always been a “strong tower” of refuge for his children.


After “Daddy’s” funeral we met together as a family to discuss various concerns and to make decisions to facilitate the provision of necessary supports. At the time, I and my two younger brothers were still single. I had been fortunate to have had the example of my father and mother’s marriage as a pattern well into my early adulthood. Some years later, when I began to seriously consider my own decision to marry, I missed not having the active wisdom of my father’s voice or guidance to add to my own knowledge base.


After my siblings and I had gained practical experience in marriage, we each urgently desired to pass on some of what we had experienced to our youngest brother when we learned that he was engaged and scheduled to be married in 2007. There was so much that we wished we had known about the trials and tribulations of marriage before having taken our vows. We wanted to be sure that we gave our youngest sibling a better informed chance at marital success!


What We Did:


Well, once again, as a family we met together and presented our concerns to God asking for his help and guidance. I’ll tell you what some of our main concerns were. Perhaps you’ve seen similar situations in your own family or peer group where it seemed as if someone wasn’t quite ready for the real world of marital challenges. In the absence of our "Earthly father" we were desirous of a method that would help us to pass on what we had learned from our own triumphs and mistakes in our own marriages. We wanted to help make sure that the realities of marital commitment were not hidden by the “glitz” and excitement of the “wedding”. We also wanted to be certain that this approach would be as positive and uplifting as possible. In addition, we wanted to include the collective voices of those who would be involved in the wedding festivities and had marital experiences from which they could draw in order to provide solid counsel.


 You see, each of us as his biological brother or sister wanted to have a word. Each of us thought that there was a way which seemed right to us in approaching our youngest brother over whom we had cultivated a protective relationship. Some of us questioned whether we should remain silent and not say something that would offend him. We finally decided that to say nothing (when we all had concerns) would be worse than not caring at all. But, would our message be received properly? Would our intentions be correctly interpreted? In answer to our prayers, God provided a process, the outcome of which proved to be nothing short of the manifestation of the outpouring of his Holy Spirit in ministry. This process that he impressed upon my heart and mind- if you’ll let me prove it to you- will change the way you speak to young men contemplating marriage and prepare them for their final evening before they stand before God to take their marital vows.


Why I’m Writing to You:


All right, why am I telling this to you?


I’ll tell you why:  Before my wife and I were married we participated in pre-marital counseling sessions with a very experienced pastor. Being an experienced counselor myself, I can honestly tell you that I was concerned by several issues that I raised in sessions that I did not feel were resolved. My concerns were minimized by the pastor simply because they did not seem to be major issues for my wife. Eventually, our sessions were completed and everything was “in order” and ready for the ceremony. After exchanging our vows, just two years later, I found myself seeking the counsel of a divorce attorney because I thought that my marriage was over.


I can stress to you that my experiences in pre-marital counseling are not unique for thousands of young men. Recent research that I have conducted shows that many men do not feel that pre-marital counseling is helpful in truly preparing them for the real world issues and challenges faced in a marriage. Nor are there solutions and tools provided which can practically aid those who find themselves struggling. For many men, even in the church, finding one’s way regarding marriage is an individual, lonely undertaking especially if pre-marital counselors make the unfortunate mistake of bonding with one member of the couple to the neglect of the other.


 Many popular psychologists and media personalities are talking about the facts regarding the significantly elevated divorce rates in the Christian community. Even among the congregations of "God's Last Day Church", the evidence compiled from recent divorce statistics and studies suggests that nearly one adult in four among our congregations has been impacted directly or indirectly by divorce. It is clear that many members within our churches are in pain carrying wounds levied to them by the attacks of Satan against the Christian Home. Perhaps you have searched for solutions as couples have come to you with their marital issues, wishing somehow that more could be done to strengthen and protect marriages when they are first forming.


Wouldn’t you like to become a part of the solution to this dilemma with which the church and Christian families are faced?


Don’t you wish for the young men and women that you personally know are contempating marriage to have their marriages established on a pure, solid foundation?


Of course you do, dear reader. I do too!


We believe that God has given to his last day church a practical solution that only needs to be discussed and shared within our church communities to strengthen the foundation of our marriages. I would like to introduce you to such a process that has come to me which is designed to appeal specifically to young men contemplating marriage. The Bachelor’s Boot Camp ™ is a group encounter designed to replace the traditional “rites of passage” that often promote indulgence in worldliness before the marital vows are taken. This is the process that we used, in the absence of my father’s voice, for my youngest brother and others who have expressed their interest of beginning their marriages in purity to me. AND it is a process that works! Look at what recent participants in The Bachelor’s Boot Camp ™ have to say:


-In retrospect had I had someone to steer me in the direction that was navigated that night, I would have been able to boast of being married to the same person for 32 plus years.


-Just listening to all the married men speak made me realize that I wasn’t the only one struggling out there and it encouraged me.


-I was a little shocked.  It wasn’t what I expected for a bachelor party and initially was a little disappointed.  But after awhile I saw the wisdom of such a presentation and really enjoyed it.


Your Special Direct Offer:


Dear Reader, the entire group encounter process which was given to me has been written down in order that it can be shared with all who are interested in doing something different to reach out to our young men and women who are in need of having their voices heard and their concerns adequately addressed. My book is entitled The Bachelor’s Boot Camp . I’d like to send you your own personally autographed copy today!


My personally autographed books will be shipped to you at the special reduced price of $19.95 (plus shipping and handling) when you order from the Author's Den Bookstore right now. The autographed copies of my book normally sell for $26.95 each. This is a total savings of more than $7.00 for my personally autographed, timely message that would be the perfect engagement gift!


And that’s not all, dear reader! My family and I are committed to getting this message out to as many as possible. I am quite certain that there are many young, excited couples in your circle of influence who have recently become engaged during the holidays. I asked my wife to marry me on Christmas Eve. It’s the perfect time for many reasons. I want to make it worth your while to order today because you’re the kind of person whose opinion can cause others to ask “Where did they hear about this process?” Here is a sample of what you can look forward to learning from my book:


“Love comes first…Then there’s marriage………

But before the vows…should I have a bachelor party?”


The Bachelor’s Boot Camp ™ is one solution to closing the door on the enemy’s attempts to ruin marriages before they’ve even begun! Congregation participants will receive clear, step by step guidelines to illustrate how they can:


  • Unite friends, family, and the church community together in providing prayers, wisdom, and practical, experiential knowledge regarding marital success for the groom
  • Allow for open sharing, communication, and true Christian bonding and camaraderie as the groom is prepped through the “oral tradition” to take on his marital responsibilities.
  • Replace the traditional Bachelor Party in order to provide the format and venue for a truly Christian fellowship experience that will be potentially life-changing for all participants



There’s more, dear reader!  When you order today  I’ll also send you my personal 27 -minute message on CD highlighting how we created The Bachelor’s Boot Camp ™ and why this process can and will revolutionize how pre-marital preparation is conducted in our well as how young men spend their final evening as single men.


I want to emphasize, dear reader, that, while my book may be available in unlimited quantities at or the only way to secure the Specially priced, personally autographed copy is to Order Today at the Author's Den Bookstore.


So please, dear reader, let me hear from you right away. You and your loved ones will benefit as you enhance your arsenal of weapons to fight Satan’s attacks against marriage and the family. And your efforts to strengthen and prepare couples for marriage will prove to be more fruitful in 2008!


Here’s what you do:


Just follow the links to my Author'sDen Bookstore today! Place your order for your own personally autogrpahd copies, and don't forget to order copies to give as gifts!


There’s nothing else to do except to expect your copies to arrive promptly. I’ll ship your order and make sure you also have access to my FREE 27 minute "Creating the Bachelor's Boot Camp" message.


Please don’t wait on this. I’m not certain how long we can keep this special offer available.


With The Bachelor's Boot Camp you have a fantastic, interactive, spirit-filled evening in store for your loved ones.  

May God tremendously bless you and your family this year!


I’ll look for your special order and CD request in My Bookstore. Thanks much.






Jeremy G. Watkins


Jeremy Watkins

For the Watkins family and

Tender Loving Care Home Solutions, Inc.


Web Site: The Bachelor's Boot Camp Store

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