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Bully's Excuse #4
by Billy Simms   
Rated "G" by the Author.
Last edited: Thursday, April 24, 2008
Posted: Thursday, April 24, 2008

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Summary: Consider what you need to do when students say, “His face flew into my fist.”

Students will actually make this statement and expect the authoritative person to believe this as truth.  As an observer, I shake my head and wonder how this child’s thinking became so confused.  Calmly, I separate the individuals, providing a “cooling off” period for the students. 

Giving students who are accused of bullying some time to reflect on their behavior before questioning them generally leads to a more relaxed and honest conversation.  Questioning and blaming immediately after an incident prompts anger, denial, and frustration.  After attending to the child who has been hurt, query the victim.  Listen for the events that were the pre-curser to the physical attack.  Each child will obviously have an independent perspective of the situation.   Discernment requires attentive listening to the aggressor, also.  When the individuals are brought together for a resolution, remind students the importance of trust and safety needed.  Provide both individuals the opportunity either in the group setting or individually to share concerns that they have about trust and safety on the school campus.

A key factor to remember, students may need to be taught anger management.  When there is not a conflict occurring, discuss with your students different ways they can handle their problems without using aggression.  Another option is role playing in small groups with a counselor’s guidance which has also helped students in difficult social situations.  Students can begin implementing new strategies when they have a choice of solutions.

While on a school campus, phrases of bullies always gain my attention.  How do I know the phrases bullies like to use?  I was once a bully.  So, if you want bullying to go away, I believe that everyone needs to be aware of the bully’s excuses and create a plan to eliminate its power.

 For additional suggestions, visit Billy Speaks, your trusted Bully Advisor.

Web Site: Billy Simms Speaks

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Reviewed by Flying Fox Ted L Glines
Good one, Billy! You made me think of a bully from my own school years. His name was Willy Galli. He was a midget, standing no higher than my belt buckle, but built stocky, and as mean as they come. I was amazed at how much damage little Willy could do. The big guys quickly learned to leave Willy alone. His normal-sized brother, Isidro, usually stood back unless Willy was ganged up on by more than three other students (Willy handled three quite well). Last I heard, Isidro had become Police Chief of my little town, and Willy had become the Mayor.

It was the big kids who attacked Willy because he was a midget and because of his race, but the real bully was Willy. Size is always important, but sometimes in unexpected ways. Willy and Isidro were of a Philippino family. This was in a small town mostly made up of first and second-generation families from Italy and Portugal. In those days, race hatred was not an "anger management" issue. A visit to East L.A. makes me think that things have not changed much.

This is a good article, Billy. We are more educated now.

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