Unconditional - Without condition
I love the word unconditional. It means there are no limits.
Unconditional Love - Love without condiiton. Love without limits.
Now there maybe a physical or financial limit to what you can do for someone you love but I am talking about love in itself.
I'm talking about a love that most often takes place between a mother or father and their child. No matter what that child does or goes thru, thats your baby, you still love them.
Now if your child does something wrong you may scorn them but guess what? you still love them.
Just take a moment to imagine all the different things that chilld could do bad or wrong... and think about how you would react... would you still love them?
I want to compare the unconditional love we have with our children to the love that we have with our friends for a minute.
Say your friend hollered at you and said they didnt like you you. Okay .. most of us would holler back and tell them to get lost, and we'd be so mad and frustrated that we would talk about them bad to others, or seek some sort of revenge, some sort of self gratification to prove we didnt deserve that. There just somany ways we coudl react yet it so differently in unconditional love.
For instance say your child hollered you and said they didnt like you. You may spank them and ground them and / or have a talk with them about how they should have respect and dicuss why they woudl say such hurtful things. You would do everything possible to teach them a lesson yet not in revenge but in love. And you would forgive and forget it in a very short amount of time. According to your child behavior you may even forgive them as soon as it comes out of there mouths, thinking to yourself " They didnt mean that".
How great it would be if we loved our friends and neighbors in that same manner. I could use a thousand differnt scenarios.
My point is.. we are all broken. We all have our bad habits and bad moments and bad choices. And so many of us can throw away good friendships over just one bad moment.
Why can't we love each other with that unconditional love? Why can't we look at someone's mistake as a mistake and say " they didn't mean that?" and forgive. or possibly look for a solution or a lesson to be learned? Or why can't we stop and examine ourselves for mistakes so that we can be more understanding?
Or is it that we like the drama and tribulation of argueing with someone? Do we like the pity of whining about how someone has done us so wrong? Do we look at ourselves as winners of a war because we can argue the fact that the other person was wrong?
No. We are not winning anything unless we can have a heart that can be humble enough to overlook mistakes, oversee restoration, and overcome our own feelings.
Its something we so easily do when it comes to our own children. So why should it be hard to do the same for our friends and neighbors?
My answer to that is because we want it to be. We want to be weak. We want to be broken.
And I'm not picking on anyone else. This I found in myself. I am weak when I allow myself to be. and it actually takes more energy to whine and complain than it takes to just let it go, smile, love, and mend.
I make mistakes all the time. What a tragedy it would be to lose a friend or someone I love because I had a bad day. Because I made a wrong choice or because I hurt someone's feelings. ..
My true friends see thru my bad day. They see thru my bad week or my bad phase. They see the good I am capable of. And what feels even better than them doing that for me, is the fact that I can do that for them.
The elimination of turmoil. The elimination of hurt feelings. This big hole left to be filled with laughter, joy, and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!
His greatest commandment was love. What a blesssing!