Getting Unstuck in Patterns and Ruts
edited: Tuesday, February 16, 2010
By Nikki Jourdan
Rated "PG13" by the Author.
Posted: Tuesday, February 16, 2010
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An abused child, teen and adult have a different mindset of life. See if you are stuck in cycles of abuse.
How often do we wish ourselves to another place, family or time period in life? Only to discover the struggles there were worst that what we are facing or have encountered already. Today, let us explore deeper to better understand why we think and behave the way we do. And what can be done about it.
Being a Christian life coach for Kingdom women leaders has given me the opportunity to grow, develop and become more creative in presenting the truth in love. I, too, had to learn to be a world over-comer, in Christ, and face my own impasse of getting unstuck from cycles of fear and professional victim mindsets. This article shares a modified version of what was taught by Kim Richardson during Certification Courses with Total Coach. Be mindful that the following are for believers overcoming abuse and victim mindsets:
There are four basic patterns or personality types, also called archetypes. Should you find yourself in one or more of these patterns; be honest and keep an open mind. Help is available. Are you ready? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ..Let's Ride!
1. The Pattern of The Child is that of innocence and total trust. A loving nurturing safe environment cultivates a happy, joyful, well-balanced child. One that would most likely grow into a person able to take responsibility, practice good work ethics, exercise self-control, and develop healthy relationships. Here we see the ideal pattern of a resourceful, confident and resilient person. Life is great and overcoming obstacles is a way of life: Christ-Centered and Spirit-Filled.
2. The Pattern of The Professional Victim is that of total dependency or co-dependency. There is a trail of blame and complains; lack of responsibility; lack of focus and direction in life. The inability to trust, along with seeking of approval or validation only reinforces feelings of low self-esteem; unworthiness; and self-hatred. Embrace God's love and forgiveness.
3. The Pattern of The Double Thinker is that of blocking every path to success, prosperity and true freedom. Fear is the fuel and catalyst that creates roadblocks and much inner conflicts; turmoil; false beliefs and unrealistic expectations. Life is more like that of a raging bull in a china store. The damages can only be seen after the fact. Take courage be renewed in the spirit of the mind
4. The Pattern of The Whore-Monger is that of compromise. It is the act of negotiating and giving away personal power, creativity, wisdom, brilliance, in exchange for safety due to utter desperation. It is living a sub-standard lifestyle for something that is already there hidden deep within. Connect to God.
Again, help is available. You can overcome by love and live in the present rather than the past. You can get unstuck and become mobile and alive once more, In Him.