The Hidden Epidemic
edited: Sunday, August 22, 2010
By The Poetess
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Posted: Wednesday, March 24, 2010
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I wrote this article for a bimonthly publication I'd produced through the year 2005. But I feel compelled to also share it here.
The Hidden Epidemic
by The Poetess (SRP)
As our world staggers into multiple difficulties, we are being
Pushed into experiencing deeper levels of our own Hearts.
Though most of us have heard about how it's OK to cry, we don't seem to fully realize how incredibly important it is for us to actually let it happen, when we feel a need to. We close our Hearts, in order to avoid feeling emotional pain. Yet, this closing of our hearts, no matter how much or how little, is causing even more pain, because crying is what washes the pain out of our hearts. What I call, the "Hidden Epidemic", grows and spreads each time we suppress our sadness and push others to do the same. The Hidden Epidemic is an emotional illness. I know this may sound a bit strange to some of you. But if you read the rest of this, and listen to the Wisdom in your own Heart, I m sure you ll feel some Truth in what I m saying.
Some say that sadness is "negative" or "depressing". Some go so far as to say that it's "un-spiritual" or "dark" to feel, release or express sadness! Some even think that all we need to do is use our minds and just "choose joy instead!" Yet, my experiences show me that this avoidence of our Hearts and suppression of our sadness is THE very thing that actually CREATES the "negative" stuff in our world; and that allowing ourselves to fully feel our sadness, so that our pain can be released, is what opens our Hearts to deeper levels of Love, Joy and Peace.
We suppress our sadness, because feeling it can be uncomfortable and sometimes overwhelming, especially when it's not supported by the people around us. But even in the most supportive environments, it's difficult to completely embrace grief. Suppression is the easiest route to take, but certainly NOT the healthy one. Most of us were taught, from the day we were born, to stuff down our feelings of sadness; to "get over it", to pretend it's not there, and "put it behind us" as quickly as possible. Consequently, most of us are very good at suppressing tears instead of letting them flow. We tend to even feel ashamed to go out in public after we've let ourselves deeply cry, because we don't want people to know we've been crying. We act as if crying is doing something wrong or shameful! We waste a lot of energy trying to avoid feeling anything but shallow imitations of joy. We stuff down our sadness with overdoses of caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, food, drugs, TV, sleeping, thinking, working...etc. We tend to keep ourselves so busy and so distracted that there's no time to feel anything! And we often try to stop others from feeling their feelings, because their sadness triggers ours. And on and on and on the cycle goes. I feel 100% certain that deeper levels of crying is an absolute necessity for the health of our Hearts, our families, our communities, our countries, our world.
The disasters and losses I've experienced, in the past decade, along with a few spiritual experiences, have lead me to a deep knowing that what I callthe "Hidden Epidemic", is the widest spread, most dangerous epidemic in humanity. No joke! You may think I'm catastrophizing here. But I'm not. The more we hide our sadness and push others to do the same, the more we spread the closing of our Hearts, which creates serious problems in ALL levels of our world. And we are all spreading this "Epidemic" to some degree. I feel that humanity is at a serious crisis point with this issue. Please think about this. . .
Suppressing sadness (closing our Hearts) is the root cause of ALL the problems we face, on both personal and global levels. When we've suppressed extremely large doses, it depresses us, makes us ill or becomes anger that yearns to strike out. On the larger scales. . .the severe suppression of sadness, causes Hearts to become so blocked that they begin filling up with deep levels of greed, warped senses of spirituality, uncontrolled anger, and thirst for power over others, all of which is THE root cause of the destructive wars we experience, on EVERY level, between family members, religions, cultures, and countries. On the smaller scales. . .suppressing our feelings of sadness causes our Hearts to start blocking to the point where what we value most starts shifting toward money and obtaining possessions. We start losing our ability to feel compassion toward our fellow beings. Depression often creeps in. Our ability to feel genuine Peace, Joy and Love diminishes. And our connection to the deeper, wiser parts of our Selves and to the Highest Powers, becomes more and more blocked. Is any of this sounding familiar to you? It does to me! This sounds painfully familiar! When I look at my life and out into the rest of the world, I See this so much that it scares me. There have been times when I've literally cried for all of us.
Sadness is not depressing!
It's the suppression of it that depresses us.
I find strength and Love in my tears.
I find weakness and depression
In my avoidance of them.
Now, I'm not suggesting that we walk around trying to cry all the time. But I AM saying that we should work at letting our tears freely flow, when we feel the need to, rather than trying to stuff them back down. And I'm praying for ALL of us to take a deeper look at the damaging effects of the "NO crying allowed" messages, which we pass on to our loved ones. I cringe every time I hear the popular Christmas song, which we STILL play for our children, "You better be good. . .you better not cry. . .I'm telling you why. . .Santa Clause is coming to town..."!!! I'm sure that we would NOT even think of playing songs like this for our children, if we KNEW how damaging it can be to them. Sometimes, when I hear this song, I sing along and loudly change the words to, "You'd better cry", because our Heart's need their natural cleansing process to happen far more than we allow it. This "Hidden Epidemic" needs to be healed, in order for us to start healing our world, ESPECIALLY through the tough times we now face. It's OK to cry. It is! It really is.
Crying is like giving the Heart a shower
To wash away accumulated dirt.
In my vision of a world that's on it's way to being healed, it would be as OK to walk down a street crying as it is to do it smiling. When we freely allow our tears to wash the pain out of our Hearts, our Hearts will open to increasingly deeper levels of Love. When our Hearts are more open to Love, compassion grows, and greed and anger diminish. When there is more Love in our world there'll be more acceptance of the differences in other people, cultures, religions and countries. This will prevent harmful behaviors and wars, on ALL levels
When our Hearts fully open there'll be no reason to
Cause harm or yearn for Love that's not there.
by The Poetess (SRP)
Deep inside most Hearts
Exists a lonely place,
Where sadness hides
And silent yearnings for Love
Long to be embraced.
This is the place
We need to reach -
Have much to teach.
But, do we dare
That's learned to hide?
Do we dare
The tears that long
To wash our face?
Do we dare
Let go of pain
So Love can find
It's place again?
Perhaps we must.
by The Poetess (SRP)
Tears reflect Joy, Sadness,
Love and Inspiration.
Each of these Feelings
Can bring Tears to our eyes.
And are connected,
Deep inside our Hearts,
In some magical way.
When freedom denies,
Just a part of one,
The others weaken.
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|Reviewed by John Bidwell
|It amazes me to contemplate the energy spent avoiding this...answer.
But also- it is good things that send me over the edge, happy endings, love realized, something that was lost...found.
I'm a fountain of tears over such things- but fight to the death the tears of sadness.
Much to ponder.
|Reviewed by Ian Irvine (Hobson)
|I heartily agree with themain argument of this article - it reminds me of Reichian, Primal and Groffian chatharsis/body approaches to the maladies of the subject that aflict us in the modern age. Sadly in our mind/reason obsessed culture we pay little attention to the logic of deep feeling - this article reminds us it is okay to cry occasionally - indeed our mental health may well depend upon it!|