Divorce is always a challenging time no matter if you are the one who initiate the divorce. Specially, if you have kids.
The moment you are thinking about divorce you should prepare yourself for a journey that will result to a gloomy end. No matter the reason for the divorce, ending your marriage can and will be very unsettling.
Swinging emotions with divorce will overwhelm you. There will be many different emotions you may be feeling as our nuptial union comes to an end.
Divorce can open your eyes and help you to see relationships like never before. For those who have been hurt by the other spouse, fear of love will probably settle in and keep you from opening up to the possibilities of maybe meeting someone that will be good for you.
Few of us ever anticipate this stage in our lives, and therefore don't know how to handle it. Healing after divorce involves starting your life over based on your own terms. Start doing a better job taking care of you again. Go to the gym, take a yoga class, and fix your home to your liking.
Remove all of his and her stuff from your residence; let him or her have whatever is special to them. Do not try to hold on to them, they will just create for emotional problems for you later.
Keep a very close group of friends and family who are will support you through your healing process. These friends and family should be there for you for when you want to express any emotions you may be feeling at the moment.
At the end I will advise to join a local support group. This will give you an opportunity to have a conversation with others with others healing form divorce.