If we review our major life events, we may observe many patterns that have been repeating themselves.  We may be experiencing repeated hurtful patterns of relationships with our mates, friends or bosses for the past ten, twenty or thirty years.  As an adult, after an unpleasant experience, we do not take enough time to evaluate our unpleasant experiences for many reasons.  We may want to postpone remembering the experience, or we do not know how to analyze the situation, or we just hope it goes away.  Rarely does what we push away, ignore or hide in our subconscious disappear.  The unresolved issues will re-incarnate themselves in our lives until we acknowledge and address them.

In the context of Tending to Your Garden Within, it is important to pause and ponder if we repeatedly have difficulty growing flowers and fruit trees in our garden.  It is necessary to be aware of those conditions that create undesirable results in our garden within and take corrective actions to improve the outcome.

It is necessary, for short periods of time, to reflect on our past to get an understanding of the repeating patterns in our lives.  Becoming aware of those repeating patterns is the first step in stopping the re-incarnation of those undesirable events in our lives.  The poem below illustrates how the many hurts, trauma and miseries in our lives keep re-incarnating themselves.

Re-incarnation

Irrespective of one’s belief systems

many things in our current lives are being repeated

over and over.

Many call this a type of re-incarnation.

There are many people who do not believe in re-incarnation.

There are many more

who do believe in re-incarnation.

When you focus on and re-live the unresolved hurt you had years ago

the current hurt is a re-incarnation of the misery experienced years ago

born again today.

When you avoid resolving a major trauma you experienced years ago

it comes back to you each time you push away.

The trauma is a re-incarnation of the experience of years ago

born again today.

When you, as an adult, are still in the state of

the victim mentality and helplessness of a child

the victim mentality and helplessness is a re-incarnation

of the childhood experiences

born again today.

When you ignore the lessons of past failed relationships

having the same types of relationships with different partners

is a re-incarnation of past relationships

born again today.

When you dive into your worries of the future

 the next month, year, or ten years

the future worry, thoughts of potential hurt and un-certainty

 are a re-incarnation of a possible future

born today.

Why do we re-incarnate our hurt, anger and victimhood

over and over?

Why do we let the yesterdays and unlived tomorrows

control what we experience today?

Why do we let the yesterdays and possible tomorrows

cast a dark shadow on now?

Copyright . 2010 by Shervin Hojat