The Will To Change Your Life
edited: Friday, August 13, 2010
By Ekong A Usua
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Posted: Friday, August 13, 2010
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I ask, have you tilted in favour of the will to change your life? If you have a "No" answer then discorver from reading this article, how you can have the will to change your life
Growing up seems to be a normal process, just like plants and animals. However, one can easily agree with the conclusion, that for us human beings, things are different. We think, sometimes very deeply which plants and animals don’t. Yes, like answering this question. Do you know or are you aware that challenges are different from problems? Think deeeeply. Asking people that question will bring out various kinds of answers and they may seem right, others may seem wrong. Okay, then may I answer it in this way; Challenges are situations that can be resolved by a man or woman while problems can only be resolved by God; simplicita! Just think about the answer I’ve given. To be more specific, let me give situations that differentiate them. One may have a financial need of say, money to pay school fees or other needs and with all hopes of getting money from anywhere, not in sight. Whether we like it or not a human being can resolve that need for us but if we have a health problem that we human beings cannot and will not be able to resolve, then we have a problem. God solves, our problems not our issues for us. Many of us, in time past, may be now, do not see situations from the answer point but from the question point. Howsoever, can you ever have the will to change your life?
Finding the will to change your life seems a difficult one but it’s not. I’m not asking of the will to change jobs, vocations, self-ministries, choices or something else important to you. Finding the will to change your life is truly the beginning because many of us may be able to find the will but because of one situation or the other, say money, will not change. Many children of God have changed their lives but more than many just don’t see themselves doing it, but isn’t this really what many of us desire? Notice I never asked, “how to change my life”, “where to start changing” or “what do I do first?”, but finding the will. In other words, what do we do when we know we want to make changes? We know there are so many things we can do better and improve upon but need a bit of a nudge to get us there? How exactly do we not only create more desire for change, but also find the will to change our lives? The answer is not an easy one, because people are not just complex in their reasoning capacities but go ahead to listen to or very likely, key into what they may have been advised into by people, instead of what God tells them! These people I’m referring to could be your dad, mum, brothers and sisters, just to mention a few. We all have different backgrounds, ideas and dreams. What works for you may not work for me, and vise-versa. Regardless, I’d like you to answer a few questions:
How does will power come about exactly? What drives us to want to put that extra effort in and get things done? Does it all come intrinsically; therefore meaning that some people will never have it? Or is it a learned skill, one where practice makes perfect? I may not have a detailed explanation but lets go back to what Prophet Joel said in Joel 2:28; And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions (see Acts 2:17). It is my considered view that everybody has the will power to change his or her life provided, we know where God wants us. However, knowing where God wants you to be is one thing and not knowing how to get there are issues to be considered. From the above scripture, it becomes clear that everyone may at one point in time or the other may see visions or prophesy, after all, it is said that God will pour out his spirit upon all flesh. The Holy Spirit is marvelous in his mind boggling ways of revelation.
Secondly, can anyone do it? The story of A’bram in Genesis 12; 1 and 4 clarifies the matter; Now the Lord had said unto A’bram, Get thee out of thy country…So A’bram departed…Let’s ask ourselves a question. Will you do it? Getting out of your perceived place of abode with all that you have which probably you may not want to carry because of the expenses of taking them with you (verse 5) and sometimes because of your age (verse 4). Many of us will want to settle down in life, if we haven’t already and begin to pursue what we want and not what God has commanded us to do. The key point is this; can you do it? That is in obeying what God says and not what you want. Can you be like A’bram and just obey? Okay, let’s proceed to Gideon who was threshing wheat by the winepress to hide it from the Midianites (Judges 6:11). We have read the account but let’s understand it by asking God for more revelation as we try to pierce the Gideon account. In verse 12, Gideon was nomenclatured with the title “thou man of valour” yet he asked why all the stress of the Midianites had befallen the Israelites. The Lord looked upon him and said in verse 14, Go in this thy might, and thou shalt save Israel from the hand of the Midianites: have I not sent thee. So, what’s the revelation? Don’t forget that revelation means uncovering. It means to dig up something that was not seen and bring it to the open. Didn’t Gideon know that he had the courage to do what he was asked to do? Remember in verse 13 he asked “…Oh my Lord, if the lord be with us, why then is all this befallen us? and where be all his miracles which our fathers told us of, saying, Did not the Lord bring us up from Egypt…? In verse 15, he said, “….my family is poor in Manasseh, and I am the least in my fathers house. Yet, God chose him. Can God choose you? Describe yourself? Don’t tell me that everyone was poor in Israel at that time, weren’t there rich people? Why did God choose him; because he was a man of mighty valour. Now when he was sure that he had found grace in the sight of the Lord, he asked that the Lord show him a sign which the Lord did. It is obvious that many of us are mighty men of valour but we’re not sure; we haven’t even asked God to show us a sign. Our being very financially broke from time to time discourages us from doing what we know that has to be done. Gideon said, “…My family is poor…” What we need is a touché from the Lord, not from man. If God did not re-assure him, to many of us, he should have continued threshing wheat in a winepress. Isn’t that attitude reflective many of us in our society presently? However, one thing should be observed and noted. Did Gideon converse about the visitations from above with anybody? In Judges 6:11 or verse 25 we read about the Lord’s visitations. It was not to the knowledge of his friends, brothers and sisters or other people. It was to him alone. So, be careful about your discussions on your visitations by God. Remember Samuel when he was with Eli; read 1 Samuel 3:1-19. Did people hear of or know that Mary, the earthly mother of Jesus, the Christ was divinely visited? The three examples given should begin to steer us up, to begin the will to change our lives.
Meanwhile, let’s go more into details. What is will power? It can be defined as: “The strength of will to carry out one’s decisions, wishes, or plans” or, in other words, “creating a vision or plan for your life and having enough strength of character to carry out that plan” or “unwavering firmness of character, action, or will.” Seriously, think about the things you really want to change in your life? Have you ever assumed, worried, thought or wondered about finding the will to carry out those changes? Where do we start? Will power involves the strength to carry out plans and ideas. In starting, one has to make sure of what kind of idea you want, no matter how small. It’s rough in finding the will to change your life when you don’t know what you specifically want out of life. For me, I started by identifying the things I actually want to do and have. I wanted to be an author and consequently I’ve written two books and many more though not yet published. Brainstorm for a few minutes and write all the things down that you would like to do and have. Don’t you think it’s a great time to ponder on your present way of life? Do you think you can accomplish all the things you wrote down? Some of you may end up only reading this piece because your current existence is limiting? Or is it because you don’t have “a firmness of character or will”? In my own life I’ve found it easy to blame circumstances. “I don’t have enough income, no cash flow…” “I can’t ever afford that…” “I don’t have the time…” Why not force yourself to take action which will allow you to achieve what is on your list? Honestly, when I am completely true to myself, I’d say that for me it’s because I’ve become comfortable with where I’m at. Complacency becomes regular. I make enough to pay bills, relax more than I should, eat unnecessary foods and sometimes over sleep… But certainly not enough to live out my dreams, or accomplish my brainstorming list. How does one find the will to change his or her life? It comes from (i) discovering what you want [Psalm18:15, Job 12:22 and Ezekiel 13:14] (ii) brainstorming what you want to accomplish [Luke 2:19] and (iii) formulating a plan and sticking with it [Romans 8:14]. So I ask; have you discovered what you want by brainstorming and writing it down? Stick with it. With a little more willpower and action, you can accomplish so much. Don’t give up just because something isn’t working straight away. Regarding my earlier questions? I don’t think everyone wants to change their life. Many people say things like “it’d be nice to have more money” or maybe it’s a new car, going on a holiday… But when it comes down to making changes to accomplish these things, they don’t try to follow through. One thing I’m realizing more and more this year is that dreams don’t have to remain as just pipe dreams; accomplishing what we want out of life takes a decision to make it happen, and the will power to follow through.
Will you be able to do it? If you’re serious about creating a better life and have started by researching ways to have more free time or create more cash flow, good decision but keep going! If you’re a complainer who continues wishing his life was better but does nothing about it, that kind of personality will never have enough will power to accomplish change. So I ask, have you tilted in favour of the will to change your life?