I was really shocked to hear that Benny Hinn’s marriage had failed, of the many Christian Leaders I have respected over the years. I remember when his wife began to take a more active role in all of his notoriety as a preacher. What I don’t like is when fingers are pointed in an attempts to judge God by the failures of men and women, whether it’s in marriage or a disaster.
It takes two to make a union called marriage. According to marriage in the Bible, when two came together it meant that the man and woman were no longer two but one. It’s like the super star on the basketball or football team. He is a part of a cooperative effort, everyone works together to achieve the goal of winning. Or you might say it’s like competing in a sack race, where you have to work with the other person to win the race.
In the beginning, there is a common thought but then reality sets in and couples are faced with compromise and challenges as they attempt to work through their daily encounters of living together. Couples discover that the sizzle is fading may wonder about their undying love for each other. It seemed so simple before the wedding.
Some of their spats could have been avoided by taking the time to get pre-marital Christian Counseling. How do you have a successful Christian marriage if you don’t even know what God expects of you? If neither party fully understands what God wants, or they have a distorted view, depending upon what denomination, or non-denomination they are associated with, then a couple runs the risk of increasing the possibility of marriage problems.
If you are a Christian, the best book to use to guide your relationship with each other is the Bible which contains instructions for living for the whole family. Two people who individually stop growing in their relationship to God, who begin to place Him second, lose sight of each other as well.
Another killer to marriage is acquired wealth during the marriage. This newly acquired wealth and fame has also been responsible for Christian marriages failing. A husband or wife works at ministry, it becomes successful, they are able to enjoy the good life together, there is not much to want for any more, so the prayers become less. When you have everything you could want, then the one you thought you wanted, in some cases, begins to stare you in the face, allowing dissatisfaction slip in like weeds and because money is not a problem, you can afford to disconnect from each other. . .Divorce. However, while that couple was in the fire, they stuck it out, and definitely prayed more.
The first step to save your Christian marriage, examine where you are in your relationship, if it is good, work on making it better, as the scripture reminds us to love, respect and even treat our spouses like we would our own body. If the marriage is shattered, before you give up then at least agree to get Christian marriage advice before you throw in the towel.
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