Next month by the 9th me and my wife are officially been dating for 15 years...and by the 5th we have been married for 10 years. Quarell ...yes it did, does and perhaps will come to our days, but no matter how bad the feeling was between us..we always come back to each other.
My wife is a living Bible, never she worry about tomorrow food. She does believe that Higher Manager has taken care of everything. She lives by heart and moody. I live by logic and bad temper. What agreat combination right my friends..hehehehe
Even during the time of dating, I know that she suffer something in her stomach, but since she is the 6th of 10, no money was provided to have proper medical check up. I was trained to see the symptoms..observe together with her..and finally decided that this Illness nee a real treatment.
Since I still have connection in local hospital, I ask her father permission to check every possible things in her. To my surprise her father said no. At that time, my conclusion was her pather pride that forbid the examination, yet now I know, it is more to fear of knowing the truth plus the insecure financial circumstances that force her father saying no.
I start deliver pain killer pills and taught her extra higiene care during her monthly"guest". Though we are asean, but practically we alrady husband and wife at that time. Despite of her low confidence in starting the intercourse, after about 1 year she finally got back her life confidence. Never did I dare to mention her father low confidence facing life, since the man got heart problem, also considering my wife moody feeling at that time. In short ...she already felt as the skipped aside daughter from her father.
Time to time, her bleeding become heavier, and she lost her confidence again...during that period, she questioned my fidelity, even ask me to find someone else. damn...I know i can't find somebody else equal to her.So we got engaged..then married two years later, about six months of her father death.
We started our medical quest....facing our fear of the womb cancer she has...the worst part was ..most doctor regret that we havent done the treatment earlier. Her confidence seemed lower and lower. She was and still is a very simple lady, so it was on the bed I can assure her, that our household can be continued. She was raise with a father with idea of throwing away any knife that is not sharp anymore.
Can you imagine her felling everytime she got a bleeding period with extra strong smell, even stronger than a three days dead fish. I secretly, spray perfume on tip of nose , during that time. I know I should stay close to her, otherwise she would loose her confidence. Deep inside my heart I know I cn't live her, because she is part of my soul. She is a part of my great Journey.
6 to 8 years like that, plus quarell which was like cough syrup, should be face at three times a day. but still we came back to each other. Pills, tablet, herbal thing alike has filled our life, massive blow came whwn, three doctor from theree DIFFERENT hospital said that we cannot have a baby.
Soon we, decide to pray our wholehearted surrender to GOD.....My wife decided to stop taking pills except for the pain killer. Damn..... I was going to fight back that decision with all my strength, but looking at my wife eyes...the fire inside me melted.
Big mistake I made was, I always try to calm her down with Logil and positive explanation..she was just listening...I did not realize ..that I already left the heart approach I used to do...except for the morning pray holding hands.
Following her heart, my wife do the morning Sunbathing after or while praying. At that time I was busy taking care of my job at Venezuelan Embassy. The job was so fast moving that they nedd to call me at 10pm.......
in short, cause of a one massive bleeding. my wife need to face another surgery, to throw away her womb. Two hours during waiting....One thing I do regret...I haven't spent quite enough quality time with her cause of my massive salary job. On my pray..if she better to be on the Higher Ground, then Let her be. at the time I see her face again ater surgery...I call to resign from the Embassy.
the prays answered in two way:
1.The womb just been cleaned not thrown away.
2. Now, we have our baby Jean..healthy and as fast as lightning except at the time of her sleep.
and prove 1 thing:
1. Love is a greater medicine
Since then My wife is a triple living Bible...she guides me always to believe more each day
Prays did answer my friends, .....
and this true story.....is dedicated to Rieko & Nancy Batenhorst, for she now ...is facing a very bumpy road....may you have great Journey my friends
This story is written based on my memory only, so I can't really write down the date in such chronological schedules, which not very chronlogical indeed.
May each of us live happilly ever after...with the bumpy ride and quarells equal to cough syrup
As long as we still wake up from our bed..my friends..let cheer up for the next battle we fight.
(oh dear dear ....stairs...... I do miss the Higher Ground Journey...but I also don't wanna miss a thing here. hehehehehehehe)