Interview with Mia Stubbs
Author and motivational speaker Mia F. Stubbs shares her experience of gossip, and how it affected her life. This compelling and thought provoking book encourages its readers to become aware of the power of words. Words can be used to encourage and uplift or they can be used to shred a person's character apart. Her openness in "Stop The Gossiping" has opened a pathway of healing that has been long overdue and has given her the victory over her inner silence.
Camille Kleidysz: Mia, welcome to Nazareth Heights Café’. Congratulations on your new book. What inspired you to write “Stop the Gossiping”?
Mia Stubbs: Thank you! My past personal experience with the effects of gossip, and knowing how the enemy has attempted to use gossip as a force to destroy churches, the workplace, youth in schools, marriages and our communities. I felt that people respond in a positive manner when they are enlightened about issues they do not know about, and issues they take effort to know and care about.
Camille: When and why did you begin writing?
Mia: I began writing articles on gossip and its effects in 2007, which then lead to writing, “Stop the Gossiping”. Writing for me has been my outlet of expression of my inner feelings. There were times when I did not want to burden others about what I was feeling, so I would write my expressions and thoughts, in my writings about what I had observed in the lives of people who were suffering silently and not being heard.
Camille: As a child, what did you want to become when you grew up?
Mia: As a child growing up, I always wanted to be in business for myself. I always felt that being my own boss would allow me to make a change and opportunities for others. I must say, as a child, I never entertained the thought of being a writer or author. But I am thankful to God for the opportunity and insight that He has given to me, through being victorious over my circumstances, and also providing healing and encouragement for many that are faced with the effects of gossip.
Camille: Presently in middle school and high school, gossip has certainly evolved. It has now gone to cyberspace, and the words and accusations have become harsher because the perpetrators of the gossip are able to conceal their identity on the Internet. The effects of gossip are devastating. In some instances the news has reported several high school students across the country who have actually committed suicide because of the venomous words hurled at them. What is your advice to a young girl or young man who is in great pain because they are undergoing… what I call a “gossip assault” in middle school or high school?
Mia:There have been large amounts of youth who have been the target of gossip through peer pressure, and bullying. As a result, their characters have been severely misrepresented. These horrendous effects have left a devastating end result on their lives and the lives of their families. This saddens God, for His love is so great for His youth. God especially wants His youth to be victorious over the enemy and their minds to become sharp. His Word says to be “Wise as a serpent, and harmless as a dove” God wants His youth to be winners in Him.
Prayer is the strongest gift that adults can give to youth.I would like to share, if there is ever a time, you should know this in your spirit, it is now! If and when one becomes a subtractor and not an adder to your spirit, you must immediately remove them from the front seat of your life, to the backseat or completely out of your car. Keep those in the front seat of your life who are builders of your spirit, and show love in your life, and love and fear the Lord. If there is anyone that tells you can’t, know that “you can” a step further, You WILL! You will have victory in Jesus! Stay focused! Listen to the wisdom of those that care about you, stay closely connected to God, for He is your Deliverer and Protector and the only One that provides His favor in your life, and uses your enemies to be your stepping stones. “No weapon formed against your life shall prosper, and every tongue that rises up against you, shall be condemned, all these in Jesus Name!”
Camille: How long did it take you to write “Stop The Gossiping”?
Mia: Through my research of what the Bible states concerning gossip, writing several articles previously, and my personal journals, then concluding the writing process of “Stop the Gossiping” took approximately a month and a half.
Camille: Do you believe that some gossip can be positive?
Mia: In Exodus 23:1 “You shall not circulate a false report. Do not put your hand with the wicked to be an unrighteous wicked”
Psalms 41:6 “And if he come to see me, he speaketh vanity: his heart gathereth iniquity to itself; when he goeth abroad, he telleth it.”
Webster definition of gossip is: a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others: rumor or report of an intimate nature: chatty talk
The best indicator to decide between negative or positive gossip is to ask yourself three questions to determine if you are a participant of gossip whether positive or negative:
1. If God was standing right next to me, would He approve of this conversation?
2. Is the person I am discussing, present, to defend themselves?
3. If the tables were turned, would I like this to be said about me or one of my loved ones?
If the answers to the above questions were “yes,” then there has not been an attempt to destroy a person’s character.
Outside of asking if God would approve of the conversation; is this conversation something that you need to ask a person that you care about? And should it be asked in private? In no way should anyone be placed in a position to be embarrassed and made to feel that their private details true or false are the root of conversation, for entertainment and amusement for the group for that day, or any other day.
Camille: If you had to choose, which writer would you consider a mentor?
Mia: I can proudly share that God is my Mentor, I also enjoy reading the writings of Ellen G. White
Camille: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
Mia: I love spending quality time with my son, vacationing together, outside of God, he is truly my best friend. He has gained increased knowledge through the sharing of my failures as well as my victories. I have also learned so much through his positive spirit and outlook on life.
Camille: Do you have anything specific that you want to say to your readers?
Mia: There is a lot I would love to share! I had someone ask me are our words powerful? I responded by saying, In God's word it states that there is life or death in the power of the tongue, but it is our Father that puts power behind the words! Just as He watches over His children, He also watches over words that are spoken against us! He has given us a wonderful text for our mental comfort, a cushioned pillow text to sleep on "No Weapon Formed Against Us Shall Prosper Every Tongue That Rise Against Us, We Shall Condemn"!
The true purpose of “No weapon formed shall prosper” is to protect the mind of the person being targeted by the enemy, whether it is the enemy gossiping, manipulating, using false insinuations to the mind, or the enemy using an individual while in casual conversation to tear down the spirit of another. The enemy loves to try to bully God’s beautiful children, and the main way is through gossip of the mind.
From the beginning of time, the enemy has tried to use gossip of the mind, manipulation and insinuations of the mind to remove God’s children off the path designed by God. This fact is evident when he cunningly convinced one third of the angels to turn against God in Heaven. It was even more evident when he deceived and convinced our 1st mother Eve that disobedience to God would be more profitable to her, then obedience to God.
The powerful phrase, “No weapon formed against you, shall prosper,” has been given as the answer key for mankind to walk in victory physically, spiritually and mentally. This powerful phrase is designed to be the cushioned pillow of peace, to sleep at night. It is the mental medicine of the mind, body and soul. The enemy has unfortunately tried to convince mankind that there is no power in speaking with authority God’s words for us, “No weapon formed against you shall prosper.” The tactic he used, was to have mankind feel as though such powerful words stated in the Bible, given by God, Our Creator, were made simply for those in the Bible at that time, and that any passage stated in God’s word, holds no weight of power now. This is another deception of the enemy, to try to handicap God’s children, so that we will feel that there is no hope. This is his way of being a bully to the mind. This is the very reason why God created this verse, so that we would have a weapon to fight back against the enemy, to protect our mind.
How many times in conversation, have you shared with someone something great in your life that you would like to accomplish? Or you are seeking words of healing and encouragement; and somewhere in the conversation, the enemy has used that person to tell you that your desired plans will not work, or your healing may not come. Recognize that this is the spirit of the enemy using that individual, without them even knowing it. God has promised in His word, that He has already conquered the world, and all that we need to be victorious, through His blood. So all things are attainable in Him. Wisdom, knowledge, healing, our desires, whatever we seek to allow us to progress forward, has already been conquered through Him.
So words only have power, when our Father puts the power behind it!
This is great comfort for all!
Camille: Do you hear from your readers much? What kinds of things do they say?
Mia: Yes, many of the readers of “Stop the Gossiping” share that they never knew how deeply gossip affects others, and truly never gave thought to how it affects so many in the church, youth in schools and the workplace. Other readers shared that they never gave thought to where gossip stemmed from…the enemy, and that it is also on God’s concern table. God has used Stop the Gossiping to provide encouragement and enlightened to each reader, whether they are a victim or a partaker in gossip.
Camille: Complete this sentence I am blessed because….
Mia: I am so blessed because I have God and my son, and I am blessed because when the enemy set out to destroy, God spoke the powerful words of “No Weapon Formed against You Shall Prosper!”
Camille: Mia thank you for sharing with us today. Tell us where we can purchase your new book?
Mia: Thank you for this opportunity! “Stop the Gossiping” can be purchased at the following websites:
(Barnes and Noble Book Store)
Baker & Taylor Online
Stop The Gossiping is available in India, as well as Africa and working toward having issues of the book in China.
It will also become available in stores and other online book stores very soon!
Motivational Speaking, Awareness Campaigns, Book Signings are available upon request! Please email stubbsmia77.yahoo.com
I would like to thank you Camille, for featuring “Stop The Gossiping” on Nazareth Heights Café’! May God bless all your endeavors in Him~
Camille: You are more than welcome Mia, Your book certainly touches a sensitive subject that affects so many people.
Peace and Blessings until the next Café Chat