Many years ago, my father had a heart attack, and was hospitalized for a few weeks, etc. Shortly after he was admitted, me and my girlfriend went to the hospital to visit him. After the visit was over in his room, we went downstairs and into the lobby of the hospital, where we saw and joined other family members.
When I joined in the conversation with my mother and the brother I just spoke of, I got irritated because of the subject matter. Instead of talking about what happened to my father, and what the prognosis was and what each family member could and would do during this stressful time...my brother was explaining to my mother his next business deal...how he was going to buy another apartment complex and what he was going to do with it.
I really felt annoyed at this conversation...the timing of it and the subject matter. But, that's the way my one brother is...all he cares about is making money.
In another disgraceful situation involving the family, my grandfather went to the hospital when I was 16 years of age, and he remained in a coma for over 3 months. What would happen next, would be the most appalling thing for me to witness in my young life. Once my grandfather was in a coma, the prognosis was uncertain...doctor's didn't know whether he would live or not. My father told me, that he learned that his brothers and sisters and in-laws started getting lawyers to share the pie...the money and property left by my grandfather after his death.
During this time, my grandmother, used her wealth to manipulate the kids and others. In other words...do this or that...or you won't get any piece of the pie! As I did, my father found this behavior by my grandmother (his mother) outragious, and my father left the family and didn't even speak to his own mother for over ten years! My father asked me if I thought he did the right thing...and I said yes...you can't play with people's lives with money, etc. My grandfather had not even died yet, and everyone was dividing up the pie.
Several years later, my grandfather has already died, and I was in the military home on leave. My father showed me a chech he got from his mother in the amount of about $1,500.00. He asked me if he should keep the check or return it to his mother. My father and his mother, were still not on speaking terms, and I told my father that I would return the check if it were me. If my grandmother wanted to get back on speaking terms with my father, she could call him or meet with him and correct matters because of her appalling behavior...and not use money as some kind of down-payment on the will after she died. My father returned the check...and they never spoke to each other again! My father was right, in not playing the money game with his own mother, etc.
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In another incident, that was similar to mine, a woman I worked with, told me she was taking a week off, to go down to El Paso to visit her father, who had just died, and to attend his funeral. A week later, she returned, and I asked her how everything went.
She told me, that she was appalled at the behavior of her brothers and sisters...because the same thing happened to her, as happened to me and my father. Her brothers and sisters thought about nothing other than sharing the wealth...the money and property and material things that her father left behind. I could sympathize with her, because me and my father went throught the same thing years before. There are some people who only think about money; property and material things.
"I can't afford to waste my time making money." Louis Assiz
In the year 2011, I am 66 years young, and all of my lilfe, I have never thought about fame and fortune...it has never been important in my life. I have never put the almighty dollar and materialism as a priority in my life. Sure, all of have to have money to live and exist...but being wealthy has never been a priority.
I live in a sleepy one-horse town called Albuquerque, New Mexico, with a population of about 500,000 including the horse. I'm reminded about the several times, I traveled to the city of Los Alamos, where the atomic bomb was created, and is just about an hour drive north of Albuquerque. There are many rich people in Los Alamos...mostly engineers and scientists. But, engineers and scientists don't flaunt their wealth like they do in Hollywood; Aspen; and Palm Springs, etc. The houses up there are all cracker-boxes...and a visit up there, you'd think this is an ordinary middle-class town. In my view, it's the flaunting of wealth... gets people in trouble, etc.
"It is unfortunate human failing, that a full pocketbook often growls more loudly than an empty stomach." Franklin D. Roosevelt
During my lifetime, I have never been a materialist...you know the type...some people would sleep in their cars at night...if they could. I get my satisfaction in life in other ways. Money comes and goes...material things come and go...toys lose their shine and come and go. But, memories are forever...and it is those memories...the things you do for others are the only things that count...at the end of life. We've all heard the old saying...'you can't take it with you' and you can't.
In 2011, you've got all these billionairs busting their butts to make the money, most of us will never see, and what do they do with it? They give it away! Why? Because money doesn't obviously bring them the satisfaction and rewards in life that they thought it would bring. All they got for their effort, was jealousy; resentment; miss-trust of the people around them; broken relationshops/business and personal, etc. You know the old saying; 'It's lonely at the top!"
For over 50 years of my life, I've been in the humor business, and during that time, I have put countless smiles on faces...and I never get tired of it. Whether it be by telling a joke; carving a piece of wood; or building my website...I love to make people laugh! Money and material things will turn to dust...but memories will never turn to dust. That's why you see so many people involved in a catastrophe such as a tornado, or an earthquake look and search for their photos...their memories or their friends; family and loved ones, etc.
...and then came the Internet...and something called websites. And, at my age, I am grateful that I have a chance to see this technology and to be able to use it, etc. As long as it remains affordable to everyone, this is where memories will begin.
My assesment as to how people perseive you...is how they like you and your work. That will be determined on the Internet, by the amount of traffic to your website/writing site, etc. The amount of awards you receive; and the amount of presence you may have on a writing site, for example. In other words...people like what you do...and all that comes down to your style, etc. It is how you do something...that people like about you...and no amount of money can buy that.
With all due respect...I hope the reader will allow me to 'toot my horn' a little...to show that money isn't everything...
Over the last few years, I have been privlidged to be on the Internet with my own website...an award-winning website.
Website name; humordoctormd
Over 100 colorful pages; Humor and creativity just seem to go together.
Early on, my website got Good Housekeeping Site of the Day in 2003 and again in 2007. Overnight on both occasions, my website got over 3,000 hits and a ton of emails. It was unbelievable, as I saw for the first time, the power of the Internet. It's simple...no amount of money, can make the public like what you do and how you do it...
No amount of money, will get the public to like what you do. If the public should like your work...there is no greater feeling...
Authors Den total traffic as of October 1, 2011;
252,049 (four years)
This number is mind-boggling to me! It is hard for me to believe that this number of people have been to my writing site and to read my articles in just four years. Boy, if this doesn't put memories in your pocket...I don't know what will.
As an aspiring writer myself, I encourage beginners in writing and young people, to post their writings at an article directory...that way they can get started in the right way, by following the rules, and by getting their articles published. I started writing seriously at the end of 2006, and since that time, over 100 of my articles have been published on more than 500 websites on the Internet. There will be no more satisfaction in your life, that to see one of your articles posted on a website you don't even know.
Articles Published Page; (humordoctormd website)
EzineArticles.com; (article directory)
Cloud 9 and Important Links Page; (Online resume page, etc.)
"A real measure of your wealth, is how much would you be worth, if you lost all your money." Pam Shaw
Again, with the reader's permission, I will try to spell out what is so satisfying that doesn't require any money...and no amount of money can buy this. Over the years, I have received hundreds of emails from wonderful people all over the world, and shown below are just five of them.
This first email, could be the most important one I have ever received;
"Greetings Jerry; I wish to thank you for brightening my day a bit. You see, my mother passed away on June 2, 2003, and I'm trying hard to get back into the swing of things. Being the 4th of July, we had gathered at her place for a big bang and celebration. Thanks for the laughs I had today...Wayne."
"Hi Jerry; I just love your website, and amazingly it's clean and refreshing...like a much needed breath of fresh air. Keep up the good work, and you may very well influence others to do likewise...God Bless You...Joni"
"Jerry...I have just been looking at your website, and I can almost say that I am wordless! What a great site...and what a big site! You must have spent many hours on this one. I found the writings interesting and hourorous. Thanks for giving me the pleasure of viewing it. Keep on smiling and laughing, as you would wish us all to do. Like myself, you sound like a bit of a survivor, who wants to enhance the lives of others...regards...Allison, Australia"
"Hi Jerry, I just visited your website, and it's awesome! This world needs your ideas and values in life. I always try to inject a bit of humor, even in the most depressing situations. Life is too short for too much gloom and doom. We have to deal with all that anyway, but we don't have to dwell on it. Congratulations on a great ideas and website, and I do hope you come to Nova Scotia here in Canada. It's a beautiful province...Judy."
"Hi Jerry, I visited your website, and was amazed at the wealth of creativity unleashed that I saw. Your efforts, both graphics and written are commendable. Keep up the good work...Navin"
"Jerry...thanks for giving me the chance to view your wonderful home. I haven't been through it all yet, but I do have it bookmarked, so I can continue later on. I have enjoyed my time here very much, and yes, I even laughed a little. Heck...I'll be honest...I laughed a lot! Thank you for bringing happiness and sanity to a place where it's so easy to lose. Lots of hugs...Denise (Sweetpea)"
People who appreciate what you do...and no amount of money will get your this...
More of the emails are listed on this page;
VIP; Very Important People Page
"Only when the last tree has died; the last river has been poisoned; and the last fish caught, that we realize, that we can't eat money." Cree Indian Proverb
We've all heard the old saying...'money can't buy happiness." See ya...
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