In the year 2011, I am 66 years young, and I have never been married. I lived with a girlfriend for over 19 years, and we had no kids together. She had two kids from a previous marriage, which also failed.
Because of medical problems in my younger years, the thought of marriage never entered my mind. If I was having trouble supporting myself...how could I support someone else and kids, if any. The answer to marriage, for me, was NO!
Why is the divorce rate continue to be high, and getting higher by the month and year? I think marriage counselors and socialoligists are scratching their heads.
I come from a family of ten kids...five boys and five girls, and all my brothers and sisters are divorced, except two. Me and a younger brother, who is an alcoholic and has spent about 20 years on the streets, so he has other problems to contend with.
My parents were married for 48 years, and that to, ended in divorce. My mother was 66 years old at the time, and my father was 70 years old. I never thought my parents would divorce, but it happened, and it was ugly. My father moved out of the house, and closed the checking and savings account, and stole all the money, and left my mother for dead! I paid her mortgage for over a year and bought her the things she needed to survive.
She told me on two occasions, that if something went wrong with the divorce, some technical thing, she would poison my father! I told this to Judge Kass during a hearing, and she quickly approved the divorce. My mother told me, that she would rather spend the rest of her life in prison, than to spend another minute with my father. It took about 8 months to find my father, and when we did, he was living in one of those fancy places, with medical and all the rest, etc. When the divorce was settled, he moved into the poor side of town and my mother got the house and money to live on.
In 2011, the family is all dysfunctional. Although we all live in the same town, I haven't seen my brothers and sisters in over 20 years. I would never recognize my nieces and nephews, if they knocked on the door. SHAME!
In 2011, I live on Social Security and a pension. But, when I was in the work place, a fellow employee, about the age of 55, told me that he didn't marry his new wife, because he loved her. He married her, because he needed someone to take care of him during his old age! That's deceit! There are many people today and from the old school, who marry for all the wrong reasons, etc.
The following article, was written by Michael Muskal of the Los Angeles Times, and the article was published in the Albuquerque Journal on December 15, 2011. The title reads as follows;
"Marriage Rate Hits Low Of 51% in U.S."
LOS ANGELES: When it comes to saying 'I do,' more and more Americans seem to really mean, 'Not so much,' according to a new analysis of the increasingly troubled institution of marriage.
Just over half of all adult Americans, or 51%, are currently married, according to an analysis of the U.S. Census data by the Pew Research Center. The center predicts that, if current trends continue, the share of currently married adults will fall below half within a few years. In 1960, 72% of all adults 18 and older were married.
The analysis shows that, through the traditional marriage is giving way, other life-style forms...including cohabitation, single person households and single parenthood...are growing. It found that the number of new marriages in the United States declined by 5% from 2009 to 2010. The United States declined is not alone in moving away from the institution of marriage, according to the survey.
'The same trend has taken hold in most other advanced post-industrial societies, and these long term declines appear to be largely unrelated to the business cycle.' The declines have persisted through good econimic time and bad times notes the report released this week.
As is usually the case, it is the young who are leading the way in demographic changes. Just one in five, or 20% of adults 18 to 29 are married, compared to 59% in 1960.
The young are also waiting to marry, the analysis found. In the past half century, the median age for first marriage has risen by about six years for both sexes, with grooms taking their first plunge in 28.7 years and the brides at 26.5 years.
Divorce has been a factor in keeping the ranks of the currently married down, but it is unclear how important it has been. Divorce rates climbed in the 1960's and 1970's, but leveled off in the past two decades.'"
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MY TWO CENTS:
In many cases, the insitiution of marriage is a tragedy...a tragedy for the children...
In my case, the only thing that matters, is the person be content with life. After I split up with my girlfriend, I have been content...whether I'm with someone or not. I didn't run out and look for love in all the wrong places...
contentment; (definition); someone who is satisfied with what they have;
Many people in the past, have gotten married for all the wrong reasons...and because of this, marriage is still not part of my game plan!
There are millions of people out there, who are married...who wish they were not, etc.
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