Blogs by CJ Heck
Thoughts on Love
7/4/2011 9:19:48 AM
"Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." ~Rumi
I find it interesting that the more aware I become, the more I recognize that nothing we attempt to accomplish in this lifetime can ever be accomplished without love. Love is the actual creative force of the universe. Love allows everything else to happen -- only love allows us to see who we really are and what our true capabilities are. The mind, or ego, only lets us see our self in terms of how the world sees us. Without love, what we project to the world through our ego is self-limiting and, therefore, it's the most we can ever expect from others.
Without love, we have nothing, no creative energy, no compassion, no forgiveness, and certainly no trust. We have literally no way to contribute anything valuable to anyone, least of all ourselves. Life becomes a void, something to stumble through each day.
When we open our self up to love, there are no guarantees we'll find the love of our life, but we will experience life in a whole new way. Our true self, the loving self will emerge -- this is who we were meant to be. This is the energy, the life, the very essence of the universe, flowing through us and it brings us back to where we began.
What is a key to opening our hearts to love? Between two people in a relationship, it's allowing ourselves to trust the other person's love of us enough to be open and honest (vulnerable) with them in the relationship. What separates one from the other are a series of walls between them. What builds those walls? Fear, ego, lack of trust, a fear of intimacy, and a fear of being totally vulnerable all contribute to walls. They're ego-based and for self-protection. We can't love through or from behind walls.
When two people love each other, they have to trust enough in their love to open their hearts and show their vulnerability. Everyone has a dark side. We all have things we bury deep, things we've shared with no one. We don't want to bring them out into the light because they're painful and we fear being judged. In a relationship, we even fear our partner may condemn us for these things and leave. Again, this is the ego trying to enslave us.
To love the way the universe intends, the ego must be put aside. One by one, the walls have to come down over time for growth to occur in a relationship. Holding back is only our ego covering for our own fears -- the fear of being totally honest, and the fear of rejection. Love is a lot stronger than we give it credit for -- love grows in the intimacy of open hearts. That's what we call unconditional love.
Mutual respect grows by knowing your partner's faults, granting forgiveness, and feeling their pain. It gives a renewed closeness. With the freedom to give our understanding and compassion, we can also forgive ourselves and, as a result, it cleanses us and deepens love. As a secondary gift, as a result of mutual acceptance and deeper love, it also brings renewed self-love.
We cannot love, or allow love in, without a love of self.
More Blogs by CJ Heck
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Partnership with the Universe -- a Synchronistic Event - Thursday, May 03, 2012
Is it Synchronicity, Coincidence, or Intuition? - Friday, March 09, 2012
Spider's Thread: Trust - Saturday, February 11, 2012
Feeling the Connection - Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Making a Better Life - Monday, January 23, 2012
A Beautiful Soul - Saturday, December 31, 2011
A Lesson in the Silence - Saturday, December 31, 2011
Epiphany in the Silence - Tuesday, November 08, 2011
Meaning - Saturday, October 15, 2011
Visit from Dinahh - Sunday, September 25, 2011
A Vision of Souls - Saturday, July 09, 2011
A Friend's Whispers - Wednesday, July 06, 2011
Dream or a Vision? - Tuesday, July 05, 2011
Thoughts on Love - Monday, July 04, 2011
Inspiration for Writing - Sunday, July 03, 2011
Something's Coming - Friday, July 01, 2011
Our Spiritual Path - Thursday, June 30, 2011
Children and Awareness - Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Enlightenment - Thursday, June 23, 2011
Spirit Guides - And Children - Thursday, June 16, 2011
Spirit Guides and Whispers - Part 2 - Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Spirit Guides and Whispers - Part 1 - Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Time - Monday, June 13, 2011
Avatar - Friday, June 10, 2011
Feeling Invisible - Thursday, June 09, 2011
More About Whispers - Wednesday, June 08, 2011
Soulmates: Soul Mates - Tuesday, June 07, 2011
Synergy of Love - Monday, June 06, 2011
What is Awareness? - Sunday, June 05, 2011
Journey to Discovery - Saturday, June 04, 2011
A Lifesaving Whisper - Thursday, June 02, 2011
A Daughter's Whisper - Thursday, June 02, 2011
Wishing our Lives Away - Wednesday, June 01, 2011
You Can Feel the Magic - Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Channeling - Monday, May 30, 2011
Whispers from the Universe - Sunday, May 29, 2011
Spiritual Healing - Saturday, May 28, 2011
Karmic Badges - Friday, May 27, 2011
Strange Dream/Vision - Thursday, May 26, 2011
Turning Thoughts Into Things - Wednesday, May 25, 2011
The Silence - Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Dinahh, Part II - Tuesday, May 24, 2011
From the Heart - Sunday, May 22, 2011
Healing - Friday, May 20, 2011
Dinahh - Thursday, May 19, 2011
One about Love - Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Zora - Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Angels - Tuesday, May 17, 2011
On Love and Intimacy - Monday, May 16, 2011
Awe and Wonder: Life - Saturday, May 14, 2011
Micah: The Dream-Vision - Friday, May 13, 2011
New Website - Tuesday, January 26, 2010