Blogs by Deborah K. Frontiera
Fighting CPS
11/21/2011 2:51:45 PM
The purpose of this blog is to provide updates on some of the cases I reported in my book (Fighting CPS: Guilty Until Proven Innocent of Child Protective Services Charges ISBN 9-780-9800061-6-2) that had not been resolved when the book went to press, and to report other cases where CPS is not working up to par. I’d also like to hear about cases in which Child Protective Services did the right thing so those cases can serve as examples of what should be done. Occasionally, I will report helpful tips and web sites with advice on fighting CPS.
To Spank, or Not to Spank; That Is the Question
This issue is back in the news and opinions are flying across the internet in response to one young woman’s “coming out” against her father in a UTube video (a case which leaves me wondering: Who was recording that video? And Why? And Why wait so long to “expose” that incident?) It is also back in the media because of Pastor Michael Pearl’s book, To Train Up a Child (being criticized because a few parents went “off the deep end” with the book and abused their children to death.)
The problem of answering this question is that no matter what one says, it is not the “correct” answer.
The concept of what constitutes a “good spanking” was on a psychological evaluation our daughter and son-in-law had to answer in a survey given by Walker Counseling, an agency responsible for evaluating their “fitness” as parents, whether they would “need” counseling, and whether or not the state would return custody of their son to them. They were told there were, “no right answers,” but our daughter’s response as to what they meant by “a good spanking” (a quick swat on the back side versus a severe beating) was one of the issues the agency involved used to prolong our case. (Recorded on pages 110-112 of Fighting CPS)
Countless research studies, short and long term, have shown that children suffer no long-term effects from an occasional swat on the backside. Yet, people continue to advocate for NO spanking at all because some parents don’t know when to stop. It’s not all that different from the argument for/against gun control: “guns don’t kill people; people kill people.” Some parents “spank responsibly” and others turn spanking into beatings, continued abuse and murder.
What’s often forgotten in this argument is that for parents who opt not to spank at all, it is most important to use some other form of discipline/punishment when a child breaks a rule and to do so consistently.
This lack of any discipline and inconsistency in punishing, or not punishing, children was the subject of an article I wrote, “The Changing Scene of Discipline,” which was published in the Oct. 2011 issue of Recovering the Self: A Journal of Hope and Healing. (ISBN 978-1-61599-128-0, published by Loving Healing Press, 5145 Pontiac Trail, Ann Arbor, MI 48105, www.LovingHealing.com)
Post a Comment new!
More Blogs by Deborah K. Frontiera
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, June 09, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, May 26, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, May 12, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, April 21, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, April 07, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, March 24, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, March 10, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, February 24, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, February 10, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, January 27, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Monday, January 14, 2013
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, December 23, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, December 09, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, November 25, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, November 11, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, October 28, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, September 17, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, September 09, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, August 26, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, August 12, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, August 12, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, July 23, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, July 08, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, June 24, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, June 11, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, May 21, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Sunday, May 06, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, April 23, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, April 09, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, March 26, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, March 12, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, February 27, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, February 13, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Wednesday, February 01, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, January 23, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, January 16, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, January 09, 2012
• Fighting CPS - Monday, December 19, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, December 12, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, December 05, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, November 28, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, November 21, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, November 14, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, November 07, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, October 31, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, October 24, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, October 17, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, October 10, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, October 03, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, September 26, 2011
• Fighting CPS - Monday, September 19, 2011
|
