by Joy L. Hale
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
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If any young person, friend, parent, grandparent or teacher finds this poem helpful than it will be worth the risk I took in writing it.
Because they can.
Because many grew up in a society where
Parents overindulged, spoiling their children
Giving them everything they wanted
Not allowing the child appreciate what the
Parents could afford to give without going into debt.
Thus robbing the child of the "dreaming, wishing and wanting"
That teaches patience and eventual gratitude.
Many were not taught to respect their parents,
Their teachers or the elderly grandparents
Who cared for them trying to teach them
Right from wrong, growing weary in the effort
The good book says "spare the rod and spoil the child"
"Oh, not my child" some mothers protest....
"She is perfect and never does anything wrong."
Some parents overlooked the bad grades,
The bullying on the playground, taunting
Their teachers and the temper tantrums
That last until they get their way
The child grows, and becomes jaded
No longer content with the victories of
Their younger years. Now they push the envelope
Further and further to the edge needing...
New highs to quench their thirst.
A psychological evaluation?
NO! My child doesn't need that
We'll just talk to him and all will be fine.
Guns? Why not, junior needs to practice
To protect himself, his friends, his family.
Drinking? There's no harm in a beer or two
Why not? Dad says, junior is a chip off
The old block, patting his son on his shoulder
Winking, he says "Boys will be boys, dont you know."
DWI's? Some moms say they were just having fun at a party
Getting his girlfriend pregnant? Some parents will send her
To an abortion clinic and then all will be forgotten.
Until the day arrives when they meet the police at
The front door, saying "Your son has just killed innocent
Children and their teachers at a local school"...
"Then he turned the gun on himself therefore ending his life."
Joy L. Hale
Copyrighted December 19th, 2012
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|Reviewed by Teresa Walker
|Wow!!! It sure is not what it use to be Joy! It is terrible that we cannot go outside our doors and enjoy the smells and looks of nature that we use too...Now we live in the memory of our minds when we were young and did not have to fear what they do today!
Makes you think!
|Reviewed by John Flanagan
|serious thought given appropriate articulation,
Joy; the subject is demanding both on writer and reader
but you handle it with maturity and sensitivity
very fine indeed
|Reviewed by Morgan Merriweather
|I appreciate this write. It's easy to point at any contributing factor. A horrific evil stew. Parenting is an incredibly tricky thing. That Mom certainly made a few monumental errors indeed. So hasn't soceity, so hasn't the gun industry, and so on. Evil reared its ugly head and all you can hope is that love comes out on top and comes out stronger. All the teddy bears, the food, money donations, 7,000 people in attendance to one funeral. The Hells Angels ready to defend for good, candles , poems, and on an on and on, let's hope the overwhelming show of love, care and support last longer and stay's in the hearts and minds of all, than one evil day.
|Reviewed by Clarence Prince
|I only wish that the entire world would read this and learn from it, how grow up their child or children, indeed this should really help many parents! Well done, Joy! Happy New Year!|
|Reviewed by Jane Noponen Perinacci
|Can we love too much? Is that O.K.......perhaps not. Thank you for this very insightful write!
|Reviewed by Joyce Bell
|THE TRUTH IS...ONLY GOD KNOWS THE REAL REASON. BEING HUMAN, WE SPECULATE; THEY TOOK GOD OUT OF THE PLEDGE OF ALLIGENCE, PARENTS AREN'T PARENTS ANYMORE THEY WANT TO BE 'FRIENDS' WITH THEIR KIDS INSTEAD OF DISCIPLING AND SETTING RULES, ANYBODY CAN GET A GUN THESE DAYS-ITS TOO EASY TO GET ONE...AND THE LIST GOES ON. BUT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED, ISN'T GOD STILL IN CHARGE? WE DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT THE FACT THAT GOD ALLOWED THOSE CHILDREN TO BE TAKEN, HE WANTED THEM BACK. WHY? ONLY HE KNOWS AND WE'VE GOT TO BELIEVE, BY FAITH, THAT HE DID WHAT WAS BEST FOR THOSE BABIES AND THE OTHERS. TOUGH PILL TO SWALLOW BUT LIVING BY FAITH...IS NOT ALWAYS EASY AT ALL. THANKS FOR SHARING, JOY. LOVE, BLESSINGS AND FAITH...JOYCE * HIS INSPIRATIONS|
|Reviewed by Christine Tsen
|Dear Joy, a very eloquent and emotionally resonant piece because it is devastating what has happened.
This one hit especially close to home because I am the mother of an aspie. But although she is anti-social, she is a gentle girl, not in any way violent. Violence is not part of the profile of a child or an adult with Aspergers. Aspergers is a biological neurological condition and mostly these kids are the ones bullied. So I don't understand why so many of these horrific violent acts are being done by males with the condition. There must somehow be other over-lapping mental issues, there just have to be. Oh, so upsetting. Anyway, I so agree with you about the guns, oh what on earth does anyone need a gun for! Oh, oh. So sad.
|Reviewed by ANNA CLOUTIER (Reader)
|joy, what you have written is so true...a powerful and wonderful piece of work...keep going,,,more, more,more,,,anna|
|Reviewed by Rodger Fowler (Reader)
|Joy, I love the way you express the generation who came before 1940 or thereabouts. We were taught right from wrong having us fearing the consequence our state of mind if we did not reason the actions of our parents or those of authority. The actions of them was at our sitting end that took the appropriate course that ensure a sense of decency in our upbringing. And if the end did come it was our own sitting end which left no scars visible to the naked eyes of others. By the time we reach double years we saw the light they were teaching us then it was just a memory but a lasting tribute to our loving parents to whom we gave praise the rest of our lives. Well done my Friend!!! Rodger Fowler|
|Reviewed by Lily of Lough Neagh C. Dennis-Woosley
|“Children today are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannize their teachers.” ~Socrates~
It hasn't changed Joy, nothing has...
Genetics or Example? Mental Defect or movies and magazines?
Unfortunately, it is an individual not situational...
Some of the most famous individuals (good people) came from
such homes, while MANY that came from "good" homes went on
to be killers... John Wayne Gacy, Jeffrey Dahmer, Ed Gheen
the Ghoul and born in 1404, Gilles de Rais is the "predecessor" to the modern serial killers. Rais was a military captain, which was led by St. Joan of Arc, who shortly after began his killing spree...
What needs to be done is more alertness to the signs
You cannot blame the home or the way many were raised
as this is moot... It is a societal thought and not
valid although wonderful to think it could be the cure...
It is a wonderful write and a wonderful thought you are
a good soul...
I was raised in a home of violence, I was taught to use
a gun, I watched as others beat on others and alcohol was
there and available with no thought about how it would
But dear, I am a loving soul, giving, kind, and caring :)
I am there to help everyone and did so even as a small
child... Believe me if the theory were true and it's not
I would have been as that young man who killed those
beautiful children, his parents and himself in the end.
Love and Light
|Reviewed by Vivian Dawson
|Dearest Joy, A subject worth the
taking..written with validating
truth that has been lost in these
times..asking ourselves if any of
today will ever make sense as the
tears fall down our face .. or
happens for a reason in God's plan
until His time of revealing...
|Reviewed by Regis Auffray
|A sad but true statement about the state of affairs in our society/world. I was raised with principles and we were poor and yet, never really knew it because our parents taught us how to find wealth and worthiness within ourselves. Thank you, Joy. Love and best wishes,
|Reviewed by Budd Nelson
|your words here are so true and so undenieably sad because they are. our entire system has become one of reward, denial and no punishment, how can it foster the truth and love it once did
|Reviewed by Jerry Bolton
|You have completely capsuled the problem with our youth today, that and an educational system who is more interested in teaching them the political correct ways to live their lives. You have said so much and it is all so very, very true. We have crossed the border of lawlessness in this country that will bee very difficult, if not impossible to take back.|
|Reviewed by John Domino
|Well said Joy. I agree with Mark except I say it's more respect for parents etc. than fear. Also, provide a loving home for the kids. If the boy really loved his mom and understood love he simply could not do what he did.
Peace, love and blessings,
|Reviewed by Mark Lichterman
|Joy, For a long time I have felt that the problem with the last two generations is fear. Or rather, truly, the lack of fear. (1)The lack of parental fear (2) The lack of authoritative fear (3) the lack of fear of God. If one has no respect for their parents or fear of parental repercussions due to their bad behavior; if one has no fear of the police nor of the repercussions due to their bad behavior; if one has no fear of God and of no belief of heaven nor fear of hell. As you know, I am not much, if any of a believer, as I know you are a bedliever, but I, as you, do know right from wrong and I, as you grew up with the fear of what would happen if we did and were bad. I do think that the young man that committed these unbelievably horrible murders was just plain crazy and in truth possibly the only thing his mother did wrong was to not see it. After all she does have another son that appears to be a responsible and good person.|