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Are you nervous, shaky, grumpy, erratic, fearful, stressed-out or anxiety-ridden? Could this be your problem and solution? Read on...

Commitment, commitment and commitment! we hear would-be advisers who we did not hire, sometimes speaking loudly and at other times subtly, urging us to make a commitment to this thing or that thing, this person or that person, this relationship or that relationship. And much too often we swallow their commitment bait and commit ourselves to things we do not need or want. We become highly committed, overly committed and frustratedly committed. We are, in truth, the "uncommitted committed." We can not truly make a commitment until we know ourselves. When we know ourselves we do not make commitments that deprive us of living meaningful lives.
When a person knows himself he will make a commitment to his unique self. In making a commitment to his authentic self he has no need to make a commitment to anything or anybody that deprives him of being himself. Without knowing oneself a person's soulhouse is likely to become cluttered with commitments. Some symptoms of the commitment syndrome are: nervousness, shakiness, grumpiness, erratic behavior, fear, stress and anxiety.
Even though self-discovery which is necessary for making a commitment to one's self is a lifetime pursuit, a person at any point or place along life's self-discovery continuum can make a commitment to himself and, as he discovers more about himself, he can make anew or renew his commitment to the authentic self that he has become aware of in that moment. Making a commitment to self is not like accepting marriage or religious vows. Oftentimes these vows are the basis for commitment jitters.They produce much of the guilt and anxiety plaguing humans. The marriage trap and the religious trap are two of the most common causes of commitment jitters which has become an epidemic in our society.
Not knowing who we are may cause us to make commitments based on our allegiance to traditions, customs, law, Founding-Fathers's human race prescriptions, and other external controlling influences that interfere with or prevent people from making appropriate decisions in the present.
To break free from the commitment jitters syndrome a person has to discover his authentic self. This discovery begins with being honest with one's self...about what he knows about himself and owning whatever it is, preferably, without judging it as being bad or good. In time he will know what it is about him that leads to destructiveness and what it is about him that promotes health. He will choose the latter and be his own best friend.

Copyright 2004 by Uriah J. Fields