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By Aubrey Hammack   
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Last edited: Saturday, September 20, 2008
Posted: Monday, April 25, 2005

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Ways in which to ensure the failure of a marriage.










Much has been written about ways to keep your marriage strong. Usually when you read about someone’s failed marriage, you hear talk of one or a few of the things that happened that helped sentence the marriage to death. Usually at the top of the list are finances and sex or lack of it and or affairs. But long before these things usually come into play there are things being put into place that virtually ensure the marriage will eventually die. This list is to remind all of us what happens to people whom at one time loved and cared deeply for each other.


  1. Taking each other for granted
  2. Lack of interest in what your mate is involved in
  3. Workaholics
  4. In law problems
  5. No time for each other after the children arrive
  6. Feeling you have nothing in common with each other
  7. Different paths as far as christian beliefs
  8. Not eating meals together
  9. Not sleeping together
  10. Understanding not the effect of nice clothes and perfume
  11. Not traveling together for unannounced trips just to get away and be alone with each other
  12. Living only for the children whether they are small or adults
  13. Not agreeing to disagree
  14. Personal grooming
  15. Taking care of your own health
  16. Spending too much time with family and not enough time with each other
  17. Not watching movies or keeping up with news events together
  18. Not having similar interests
  19. Disagreeing over finances
  20. Not spending one complete hour per week with your mate
  21. Being unable to discuss your own likes and dislikes involving sex
  22. Not able to lay in each other arms and talk of individual dreams
  23. Showing more care and concern for others outside the marriage especially towards one’s nuclear family
  24. No kissing or touching each other
  25. No attempts to please a mate
  26. Not having the ability to seize the moment for a heart to heart talk
  27. Thinking your mate is always wrong
  28. Not having sexual intercourse
  29. Having a feeling that your mate is the enemy
  30. Not truly caring enough about the person you are married to in order to at least discuss any of the above items that just may be the solution

I appreciate William Cottringer  suggesting three additional ways to help a marriage fail.  They are:

31)  Not Understanding the other person

32)  Not Laughing with the other person

34)  Not attending church regularly together








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Reviewed by Mileah Shore 8/3/2008
Wow, this is fantastic. Thank you for having the courage to type that out. This is truely a blessing.

Mileah K Shore
Reviewed by William Cottringer 2/27/2006
Aubrey-- These are certaintly true. I would add three other very important things that their converse is true for 50+ years of marrigae bliss (solid research):

1. Not understanding the other person.
2. Not laughing with the other person.
3. Not attending church regularly together.
Reviewed by Minister Nina Clark 4/27/2005
This is just "EXCELLENT" What a blessing it was to stumble across this great post. Thank you so very much for sharing this. May the good Lord continously bless you always.

Min. Nina Clark
Reviewed by Rosemarie Skaine 4/26/2005
Good points. R
Reviewed by m j hollingshead 4/26/2005
tis true

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