30 Ways A MARRIAGE IS GUARANTEED TO FAIL

 

 

Much has been written about ways to keep your marriage strong. Usually when you read about someone’s failed marriage, you hear talk of one or a few of the things that happened that helped sentence the marriage to death. Usually at the top of the list are finances and sex or lack of it and or affairs. But long before these things usually come into play there are things being put into place that virtually ensure the marriage will eventually die. This list is to remind all of us what happens to people whom at one time loved and cared deeply for each other.

 

1. Taking each other for granted
2. Lack of interest in what your mate is involved in
3. Workaholics
4. In law problems
5. No time for each other after the children arrive
6. Feeling you have nothing in common with each other
7. Different paths as far as christian beliefs
8. Not eating meals together
9. Not sleeping together
10. Understanding not the effect of nice clothes and perfume
11. Not traveling together for unannounced trips just to get away and be alone with each other
12. Living only for the children whether they are small or adults
13. Not agreeing to disagree
14. Personal grooming
15. Taking care of your own health
16. Spending too much time with family and not enough time with each other
17. Not watching movies or keeping up with news events together
18. Not having similar interests
19. Disagreeing over finances
20. Not spending one complete hour per week with your mate
21. Being unable to discuss your own likes and dislikes involving sex
22. Not able to lay in each other arms and talk of individual dreams
23. Showing more care and concern for others outside the marriage especially towards one’s nuclear family
24. No kissing or touching each other
25. No attempts to please a mate
26. Not having the ability to seize the moment for a heart to heart talk
27. Thinking your mate is always wrong
28. Not having sexual intercourse
29. Having a feeling that your mate is the enemy
30. Not truly caring enough about the person you are married to in order to at least discuss any of the above items that just may be the solution

I appreciate William Cottringer  suggesting three additional ways to help a marriage fail.  They are:

31)  Not Understanding the other person

32)  Not Laughing with the other person

34)  Not attending church regularly together