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Single In The City - Are Men And Women So Different?
by Christine West   

Last edited: Sunday, December 01, 2002
Posted: Sunday, November 17, 2002

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Are Men And Women So Different?
Published in The London Free Press
Thursday, October 10, 2002

Why are men and women so different? Why is meeting people so frustrating? Why is being single such a hassle? You may be wondering: What’s to talk about? What’s the big deal? If so, ask yourself the next question…

Where does a nice person meet someone to spend time with platonically, never mind romantically? Upon polling dozens of people (single and coupled), numerous answers came to light: bars, the library, the grocery store, through friends, personal ads, chat lines, blind dates, dating services, and so on. Interestingly, the people in relationships couldn’t give much input, where the singles were full of ideas. But still single!

When asked why this irony exists, the singles could not clearly explain what they are looking for. The general problems with being single seem to be that we either don’t know what we want, or we have an unrealistic or contradictory view of what we’re looking for in a romantic partner.

What are men looking for in a woman?

Passionate / Graceful

Feminine / Strong

Confident / Modest

Sense of Humour / Dedicated

Nurturing / Independent

Trusting / Concerned

The list goes on and on and often seems paradoxical. However, the old adage that men want a lady in public and a tramp in the bedroom has remained true throughout history. What are women looking for in a man?

Sensitivity / Strength

Confidence / Humility

Sense of Humour / Dependability

Moral / Adventurous

Team Minded / Independent

Gentle / Passionate

Not so different from the men’s list, a woman wants a sword-toting knight in shining armour who won’t take any crap from anyone but her.

Women want to play Lois Lane to their own personal Superman. Men want their lives to be comparable to an episode of I Dream of Jeannie. Some of us want the feeling of control but can’t resist the individuality and passion that comes with a real human. Others of us want to be taken care of but on our own terms.

Granted, we are as different as Mars versus Venus, apples and oranges, or night and day. But think about it: planets are planets, fruit are fruit, and time is time. Are we really so different after all?

Birds are captivating, winged creatures that build nests and care for their loved ones. Bees are fickle, pain inflicting pests that pollinate every flower in their path. Please send me your thoughts on the birds and the bees.

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