By Marie Toole
Where have the years gone? It seems like only yesterday I was picking out a prom dress and deciding on a career.
Although aging is an inevitable process in life, I’m trying to make the best of it by accepting the transition with a graceful attitude. I choose to make it a happy occasion rather than grunt at the passage of time.
When you look at the bright side, it does have its advantages. I plan on enjoying each and every benefit…Social Security checks, Medicare, AARP, early bird specials and those great senior citizen discounts. But there are also some downsides.
As you age, you’re apt to suffer a few disturbing losses, like vision, hearing and memory. To see better, I bought myself a pair of transition glasses with a necklace to wrap around my neck so I wouldn’t lose them. Hearing is a special loss to me. I used to attempt to read lips or watch TV with the sound blaring. Thank God for closed captioning and the invention of hearing aids. Not only do I understand what my husband is saying to me now, but we can actually engage in an adult conversation without the whats, whos and huhs?. Most fortunately, I can hear my grandchildren’s giggles and relish the echoes in my heart.
I tend to look at my loss of memory in a positive way. I’ve got great alibis that really stick. “Really, was I? I honestly forgot” It’s a way out of a lot of jams.
Now that I’m semi retired, I have more “me” time and “grandchildren time.” What a joy it is. I get to do all the thingsI’ve dreamed of doing in my younger days, but didn’t have the time for. I love spending quality time with my husband, baking and cooking with the grandkids, swimming and lounging by the pool, reading a good book and taking a nap. These are true luxuries.
I’ve learned never to waste one moment of the day because I never know if I’ll see another sunrise. It gives me great motivation to get things done, like getting all the photos into the scrapbooks, finish the poetry books I’ve started and compiling mom’s recipes into a cookbook. I don’t want to put anything off until tomorrow.
On a much brighter note, I’ve learned not to sweat the small stuff and anything that is beyond my control….like a recession, inflation and gas and food prices. I see money as a temporary thing so try hard to save as much as possible and not splurge on useless things. Dinner out with my hubby is a treat and traveling is our earnest reward. We may not have loads of money, but we know how to have great time with what we have.
It’s not always easy feeling young as I grow old, but I do try my best to see the positive side. With age comes wisdom, learning from my mistakes; patience when things go wrong, as they sometimes do and a renewed gratefulness for all the beautiful people who have touched my life. I feel blessed to have known love and feel love so unconditionally. I thank the Lord for my health each day and try to do my part with diet and exercise to keep myself strong.
I use my time wisely now because I’d hate to leave this place with any regrets. I could have, should have, or would have is, typically no longer in my vocabulary. I’ll tackle anything that needs to be done before I utter those words.
The only thing I have to remember now before leaving the house is double check that I’ve got everything I need. Glasses; check, hearing aids; check, dentures; check, check!
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