I think almost all of us would agree, that there are millions of lousy parents all across the country, who should have never become parents in the first place. That's the first thing wrong with education in this country...lousy parents have lousy, good-for-nothing kids, etc.
I am not a child psychologist; a teacher nor am I a marriage counselor...but I know that if I see a lazy parent...I probably see a lazy child, too! If I see an unambitious parent...there's probably an ambition-less child in the family, too. If you have a hateful parent...you probably have a child that has been taught to hate by one of his or her parents, too! Children learn to hate...and it probably comes from some member of the family.
You don't have to be a rocket scientist or a brain surgeon, to know that if a parent abuses one of their kids...that child will probably grow up to abuse their own kids...and that's a proven fact. That type of behavior seems to go for generation after generation, and to put an end of that terrible cycle doesn't seem to offer much hope in this society.
"Education is a progressive discovery of our own ignorance." Will Durant
I worked with a guy for over ten years, who was about the age of 40, who told me one day, if he had a choice between going back to school...or getting welfare...he would choose to get welfare! And, that's the attitude we see all over the country...the apathetic parent, who cries out, "That's the teacher's job to teach and educate my children!"
In my view, millions of kids all across the country, were NOT WANTED by their parents...they were 'accidents,' and whose fault it that? Parents will come up with every excuse they can think of, to not show interest in the kids they produced. Why? Because the kids THEY PRODUCED were NOT wanted in the first place.
If the parents were educated, they could find a job that pays a living wage, and they wouldn't have to work 4 jobs to make ends meet. They could spend more time with their kids. So, whose fault is that?
I'm Hispanic, and during my younger years, I spoke both Spanish and English...Spanglish. But, my parents would not let any of the kids to speak Spanish at home...we all had to speak English. They told us that English was going to be more important in finding a job later. They were right. Of the ten kids in the family, I'm the only one who speaks Spanish.
I can't tell the reader, how many times I've heard Spansih people in a grocery store speak Spanish to their kids, who are just 3 or 4 years old, and the kids respond. These kids are going to have a hard time, because they don't know anything about the English. Let's face it...the US is a country where the main language is English and NOT Spanish. And, whose fault is this, the Spanish kids enter pre-school without any knowledge of English?
That's true ...but kids don't start school at ...or...2...or...3...or...4 years old. During the formative years of the child...who has to teach that child...the parents! I just don't think the parents don't teach their kids the value of an education...and continue with that attitude all through school...that education is a top priority in their lives! The parents point the finger at the teachers...just like everyone else. Remember the old saying, "You can lead a horse to water...but you can't make him drink."
It's the attitude of the parents during the formative years, that makes a difference in that child's ability to become a learner and a doer...and not somebody who's looking for welfare at every turn in his or her life.
"Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one." Malcolm Forbes
I do not come from an educated family. My father did not graduate from high school...and my mother finished only until the 8th grade. Of the ten kids in my family, only I have gone to college and completed two years...and I'm the only one of the kids, who served four years in the military (Air Force). I have two alcoholic brothers, who didn't finish high school, and one alcholic sister, who did the same. Two of my sisters graduated from high school, at the end of the summer with a G.E.D.
Sadly, education has never been important in my family. There was never a priority about educating oneself. I don't think my father ever looked at our report cards in his lifetime...that was my mother's job...she took care of the kids. His job was over at 5 o'clock when the whistle blew at work. I don't think my mother really took a good look at the report cards either...just a glance...and she would go back to watch her soaps, etc. It seemed like there was always an apathetic attitude toward education...any old grade is fine...as long as you pass!
"He who opens a school door...closes a prison door." Victor Hugo
On the other hand, my ex-wife comes from a really educated family...there was a priority in this family to get educated. My ex-wife had a degree in social work, and worked for the state for over 25 years in the child-abuse division. Her father had a degree from Stanford in chemistry, and worked for an oil company all his life. One of her brothers had a degree from Duke, and it was in finance, and he was one of the top ten stockbrokers in the country. Her other brother, has a degree in psychology, and is a practicing psychologist is Oregon. Her mother had some college education, but was a homemaker all her life. This is a family that put a high priority on education.
I've always like to be around people who are smarter than me...so I can learn from them. So, I fit right in with this bunch...they were all brighter and smarter than me. I've never liked being around ambition-less people...the negative, dumb-asses and dufuses of the world!
"The object of education is to prepare the young to educate themselves throughout their lives." Robert Hutchins
When I was 43 years of age, I completed three writing courses; Writer's Digest course; the National Writers Club course; and a creative writing course at the University of New Mexico. It was one of the best things I've done for myself. I've always wanted to do a little writing in my later years, but I knew I had to improve on my writing skills, so I had to complete the courses, which took about 18 months to complete at a cost of about $200 at the time.
When I was 53 years of age...it was the Age of the Computer, and I wanted to have computer skills, and most of all, I wanted one of those websites everyone was talking about. Eventually, I got both...as I completed three computer courses and I finally got my own website. I eventually got my writing site at Authors Den, and over a four year period, I have written about 215 articles, and over 100 of them have been published on more than 550 websites on the Internet.
"In the first place...God made idiots, and that was for practice. Then He made school boards." Mark Twain
For over 19 years, I helped to raise two boys, and education has always been a top priority in our household. Both boys graduated from high school and from college...one of them is in medical school...and the other got a degree in criminology and working for a police department.
With so many millions of lousy parents all over the country...it's no surprise that there are so many lousy students in the school system nowadays! (blame it all on the teachers!) You know the old saying..."you can't make a race horse out of a donkey!"
I think my entire family suffered from apathy; negativity; and jealousy and resentment of others...who were accomplishing something with their lives. If they put a small percentage of all that negative energy into something postive...they too would be accomplished and better off today.
UPDATE; DECEMBER 12, 2010
About two weeks after I wrote this article...an article appeared in the Albuquerque Journal on the same subject, and I thought I would post the piece here. The article was written by Donna Gordon Blankinship of the Associated Press, and was published on Sunday December 12 and the title reads;
"Survey: Low Student Scores Parents' Fault"
The article reads as follows...
"SEATTLE; Blaming teachers for low test scores, poor graduation rates and the other ills of American schools has been popular lately, but a new survey wags the finger closer to home.
An Associated Press/Stanford University Poll on education found that 68 percent of adults believe parents deserve heavy blame for what's wrong with the U.S. education system...more than teachers, school, administrators, the government or teachers unions.
Only 35 percent of those surveyed agreed that teachers deserve a great deal or a lot of the blame. Moms were more likely than dads...72 percent versus 61 percent...to say parents are at fault. Conservatives were more likely than moderates or liberals to blame parents.
Those who said parents are to blame were more likely to cite a lack of student discipline and low expectations for students as serious problems in schools. They were also more likely to see fighting and test scores as big problems.
'Nobody is too busy to raise a child for a successful future,' saud /wukfred Luise Vincent, 65, of Coppell, Texas. Vincent worked early or late shifts for Delta Airlines during most of his career so his two daughters would have a parent at home after school. Now he's retired and home after school to help guide his granddaughter while his daughter works.
The problems children and their parents deal with inside and outside of school every day are growing, said Julie Woestehoff, executive director of Parents United for Responsible Education, a Chicago advocady group. Children are tired, they're hungry and they need someone to help them with their homework. Some kids face violence at home or in their neighborhood. Some parents are trying so hard to keep a roof over their family that they can't help with school."
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In the year 2013, millions of kids out there are simply 'accidents,' and not wanted...and whose fault is that, anyway?
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