I don't consider myself a failure at any endeavor...because I've tried and done my best, and things didn't work out for one reason or another. It's all the other people standing on the side-lines, who are the failures of the world...who never try at anything!
Helping to raise two boys for over 20 years, I've always taught them, that they were never going to win them all...whether it be a baseball game; a race; getting a job; a card game...there were always going to be losses that one has to deal with.
Just because you don't get the job, you don't have to go jump off the Golden Gate Bridge; just because you don't make the audition to get in the orchestra, doesn't mean you have to go jump off a cliff; and just because you don't make Homecoming Queen, doesn't mean you have to shut down all the shades in the house and never go out again.
"Defeat is not the worst of failures...not haveing tried is the true failure." Author unknown
In 2011, and at the age of 66, I have had my share of set-backs, and I have no regrets, because in all my set-backs, I've always tried to do my best...but, for some reason or another, I have not reached my goal at what I wanted to do. But, on the other hand, there have been times, when I have reached my goals...and it makes for a much sweeter times. But granted, it's the set-backs that are harder to deal with. A case in point;
Arts and crafts shows; For over 30 years, I was a woodcarver in the art world, and I participated on over 40 arts and crafts shows all over the state of New Mexico. (where I live). I also sold my work in shops and galleries, too. Over that period of time, I sold almost everything I made, and all of it was just spending money...pay for the expensis of the show; the entry fees; the gas to and from and so forth.
Since I had done so well over many years, I thought it might be a good idea, to put on a show and sell tickets for the public to enter. A few years earlier, I had participated in a show at the ballroom at the University of New Mexico Student Union Building. And, I thought to myself, that this might be a perfect place to start with my idea...plenty of students around in the school year. I studied the idea, and started to make arrangments.
I rented the UNM Ballroom for a day, about three months before the show was to take place. I would have a full-page ad in the student newspaper, and for the next three months, I prepared for the show. I was excited, but nervous that something would go wrong as well. Something out of my hands, etc.
The year was 1976, and I was going to charge one dollar to enter the show. Everything was ready on the day of the show, and me and my wife loaded up the truck, and took off to the University. We unloaded and set up the show that morning. The full-page ad was in the student newspaper, so everything was GO...and the opening of the show came and went; 9 AM came and went; 10 AM came and went; 11 AM came and went! Neither of us expected what happened that awful day...not a single person paid a dollar to enter the show!
I was feeling pretty low about this time, and I could see on my wife's face, that she was not too happy, either. As it approached noon time, I told my wife to start helping me pack up...we were not going to stay through this for another five hours! We packed up as soon as we could, and we left the building about noon that day...an awful experience!
So, what was I supposed to do...go jump off a cliff someplace because things didn't work out?
"Winning belongs to the most perservering." Napolean
Exchanging Links Program; The year is 2011, and unbeknownst to me, I became a member of this organization called LinkedIn...which I had never heard of. One day, I had about 35 emails in my mailbox, and I went to their homebase to learn more about this group. About six weeks went by, and I had linked up with about 175 people in this group.
It was at this time, that another idea came to me. I had not exchanged links with anyone for about a year now. This was a large group of people, as many of them, had over 500 links with people in their group. What if...I thought to myself...if I had an exchange links program, and I would exchange links with these website owners.
I worked on this for about a week. I wrote an article entitled, 'Exchanging Links For Mutual Success'; I extended the space on my Front Page on my website, that would hold the links/website information; I wrote about a page announcement on how all this would work, and now everything was ready. On this day, I had about 175 names (in bulk) that I would send out by email. Everything else was ready to go, when I let them fly by email...
Sadly, a week to ten days later...there were no takers! I decided previoulsy, that there would have to be a few early-takers, or I would abandon the project...I don't think I could live through this torture for very long. After ten days and no takers, I took everything down...and abandoned the project...another one bites the dust!
"Winning isn't everything...but wanting to win is." Vince Lombardi
When a person knows how to lose...and picks himself or herself up after the ordeal...and moves forward...that is a big win for him or her! During my lifetime, I want no regrets...I've won a few and I've lost a few, too. When I'm on my deathbed, I don't want to have to say...'I would-a, should-a, could-a...
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