Is my love for Him based on what He does or is it without conditions?
“No matter what, I love you. My love for you is not based on works: it’s not based on anything that you do or don’t do; I just love you for who you are. I love you unconditionally. That’s all.”
I’ve said it to all three of my children, and to my wife, numerous times. And I mean it. I strive to ensure that my love for them is unconditional, because that’s how God loves us, and that’s how He wants us to love others. So I also try to love my neighbors and strangers with that kind of Heavenly love, too. I even made it a running theme in my book, A Truly Successful Life.
But ironically, I haven’t been loving God that way, until recently. I’d walk from my children’s bedroom, where I’d just told them how much I love them without conditions, and go to my bedroom, where I’d express my frustrations with God for not answering certain prayers in my time frames. Sure, He sent His Son to die for me, to pay for my sins. And I trust in Christ implicitly. But I’d always need God to do more: to help us, to bless us, to provide for us, to always answer my specific prayers. Sometimes, when I didn’t see Him answering certain prayers, I would be so frustrated that I’d become angry with God, refusing to talk to Him for a day or two.
But this is not loving God in the same way that I love others. My love for Him should not be based on anything He does or doesn’t do for me – I should simply love Him for who He is, that’s all. It should be an unconditional love, just as I love all of humanity unconditionally. And in my relationship with Him, doesn’t He deserve to be treated at least as well as I treat others?
So now I strive to love my Heavenly Father unconditionally. My love for Him is not based on works – what He does or doesn’t do. It’s no longer based on whether He’s answered certain prayers, or blessed my family and me in certain ways, or opened certain doors for me. It’s enough that He is there, that He is real, that He loves me, and that I love Him. His love for me is not based on works, on what I do or don’t do. And going forward, my love for Him is no longer conditional as well.