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Compulsion to Help
By Shervin Hojat, Ph.D.
Last edited: Sunday, September 16, 2012
Posted: Sunday, September 16, 2012



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Do you help others fix up their house while your own house needs fixing?

Are you the type that looks to save and fix anyone that you meet, sometimes contrary to your highest good?  Do you help others fix up their house while your own house needs fixing?

Sometimes we subconsciously occupy ourselves with helping others so that we do not have time to focus on our own issues that require attention and healing.  We may become submerged in our compulsion to help, to our detriment, which may manifest itself in constant fatigue and resentment.  Friends may see what is happening; however we may not be aware of the impact of our helping actions on ourselves.

 

Compulsion to Help

You are the life saver!

You jump in the dark, murky waters
to save someone who is drowning

You feel connected and validated by helping others.

What happens when the person holds on to you tightly and
does not let you gasp for air despite your repeated attempts?

What happens when she/he takes you deeper under the murky waters?

How are you helping now?

Do you sink to the bottom in the spirit of helping?
or
Do you get loose from the person to save your own life and then return to help?

When do you decide you need to save yourself
so you can help others later?

Copyright . 2012 by Shervin Hojat

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Reviewed by Barbara Henry
Powerful message Shervin,and as usual, it leaves much to think about.
Thank you for your thought provoking and beautifully written work. It is appreciated.
Continued success
Barbara J Henry
Reviewed by Diana Legun (Reader)
Very appropriate, Shervin, to so many of us, including me. There are labels for this, like 'careaholic' and 'enabler'...but I appreciate the way you wrote this with questions. You ask great questions in your various writings and I like that. Often helping (giving) stems from ego (the desire to be liked or important). It's hard not to fall into that. When pouring from the pitcher into the many outstretched cups, until it is empty to the last drop doesn't let you hydrate yourself for the hike back to the well. Thank you for this. ~~ Diana

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