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Black Male And Female Relationships Part 1
By Shaneetha B Akinlana   
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Last edited: Thursday, October 15, 2009
Posted: Wednesday, October 14, 2009

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Black Male and Female Relationships in a changing world. Where do we go from here.

               black And Female Relationships 

                       Where do we go from here.

The black male and female relationship has been and enigma    to our society for hundreds of years. Why is this so? Is it because we have survived this place called America? Is there such a thing as a happy black couple? We constantly hear the sisters complain about our black men to the point of exhaustion. Try as they might the sisters say are men our lazy, unproductive, and not wanting to work.

We have seen an increase in infidelity. It is so wide spread that the men are wanting two and three wives and the strange thing  about all this drama is most men can't take care of just one wife. It takes a mighty man indeed to take care of one women emotionally, financially, sexually,intellectually, physically, and pray with them and for them spiritually. these problems alone are a great responsibility on any one man. My question is What ever happend to scared sex?

Why is it our men are leaving our women to fend for themselves, being both mother and father. All this sexual  extracurricular activity may feel good, but who's paying the bills.

70 percent of African American children are born outside of marriage. So my question is Whatever happened to the original black family? Did it ever exist? And where do we go from here?

Let's take a walk back through history to get some clarity  on this confusing subject. One thing is for sure no matter what the satistics say black relationships they have lasted for over four hundred years in a system that does not want black men and women to stay together.

Can we really call this a democratic society were the system constantly tries to poision the black family and kill the soul and spirit of our brothers,sisters,and children. Hundreds of years ago thousands of our men, women, children, mothers, and fathers went through the doors of no return on the shores of the west African continent. Our people were held captives, shackled, and imprisioned in dark dungons of hell without sunlight food and daily needs. they were seperated from their families and loved ones.

Many died after being tormented during the sojourn. Our  great Grandparent  and old wise elder lay at the bottom of the vast ocean to this very day.The horrible burial ground for the mass murders is hard to explain to our children but explain though we must . We must never let them forget. How do we tell them about the beatings of our men before their women to make them look weak in the eyes of ther families.Our men were castrated mentally, physically, and emotionally. The were stripped of all diginity.

how do we tell our children how our women were raped daily and traded from master to master  seprated from their  new born infants and children to never see them again. Somewhere in our celluar memory those thoughts surface form time to time,and we cry out for repartriations. The karma of  the white slave masters weighs heavy on our modern day society and separation of the black and white still does exist

As we move forward in time and space to what's happening now.

Let's look at some basic statistics for Black people. There are 41 million people in the United States, or 13.5 percent of the civilian non institutionalized population. Blacks are the second largest minority population, following Hispanic/Lantio. More black women than black men have earned a bachelor's degreee and black women normally have earned more master degrees  than their black male counterparts.The plot thickens. The mis-education of the black male in our schools is no illusion                                                                                             black male children are labeled early on with behavior problems and put on drugs such as ritalin to thwart their young minds and spirits. Children as young as four and five years are being labeled ADD/ADHD and drugged through mandatory school regulations. After being on these so called percription drugs in grammer school  for years, they trade those drugs for street drugs by the time they are in their teens.

The unempolyment rate for blacks is twice has high than for whites. African American adults are more likely to have higher death rates from serious illiness cancer, and heart failure. The high infant mortality rates show staggering numbers for our black females. African Americans make up only 13% of the total US popualtion, but account for 49% of HIV/AIDS cases.

With all this piled up upon us . we still try to survive in this hedonist society. The black female cry out were are our black males. It is a known fact the black male incarceration rate is three time higher than that of white males and the sentence time is much longer. When a black male leaves prision his life is basically over. he can't vote, and No one will hire him . He has no way to care for his family except more crime. He is now caught in what we call cyclicity.

The big question we must ask oursevles is how do we undo years of damage done by this present American system to the African American citizens. Part 1. To be continued.



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Reviewed by Mitzi Jackson 7/1/2010
I am currently in studies of African Amerikkan and I am doing a paper on the black male and female relationship. I want to thank you ahead of time because, your articles here will be used as apart of my research. I love your wording and I am looking forward to reading the rest of the parts of this series. Our family, our relationships are in (and their is no word for it) repair and healing, thank you and stay blessed
Reviewed by mary mitchell (Reader) 2/4/2010
I am so glad to know that someone else think the way I do. We as human beings are born into the world with natural trait. One very important trait is to love, which is the image of God. Which means we have all the quality of God in us. But when we are confronted with disrespect, strip of dignity and just treated unhuman, it take an tole on a human being. Then all those memories being past down creating a generational curse of wombed souls. Which we then have an domino effect, of wombed black men and wombed black women. Because the man is the head and if you damage the head the rest of the body will feel the effect. Our black women are to be help mate. We are going to have to stop conforming to the world and build our black men back up. And stop repeating what Eve did in the garden.

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