You might think by now that I carry a dictionary in my pocket but I really don’t. I will tell you I have one in the house and the motor home. Wished I had enjoyed the dictionary this much in school.
In the dictionary growing pains is referred to in two ways: 1. recurrent pains in the joints and muscles, especially of growing children, a loose term with no precise medical meaning and 2. Difficulties experienced in the early development of a person, project, etc.
I would like to have a number 3 added to the dictionary. The pangs of pain suffered by a parent or grandparent when a child wants and needs you less.
The truth is that you work with them, teach them, talk to them in hopes of getting them to the point where they can be independent, responsible, clear thinkers with strong vision and WHAM that day finally arrives and you feel like someone just tore your heart out.
I listened to my daughter the day her 17 yr old daughter (my granddaughter) received her drivers license. Now Deana had already figured out that there was going to be some advantages to this. It would of course mean that she would now have help transporting her children to practices, games, medical appointment and such. That all sounded really good in theory however the first night the 2 kids took the car and went to the mall, Deana was on the phone to me as she realized that not only had her daughter just left the house in the car but so had her son, both her children in the same car with a new licensee driver. How did I get through that with her, to which I pointed out I had had only one child and that one child left the house one night ALONE to go somewhere. Somehow we all lived through it.
One night I was talking to Deana and I asked her where my 14 year old grandson Blake (named after Uncle Blake) was and she said he had gone to the mall with his cousin Tyler who had just gotten his license! “He what. You let him go, he only got his license today, how do you know what kind of driver he is” She assured me that his cousin was very responsible and they would be fine.
I remember the days of not that long ago when it was a great treat to come to Nana’s for the weekend, now I’m lucky if I see then for 10 minutes on the fly every couple of weeks or so!!!
Boyfriends, girlfriends, swim practice, soccer, football games, I truly am glad they are involved in these activities. They are wonderful goal oriented kids.
Deana comes to me now and has right along with her questions, etc, even we went thru the stage where there was no time for me at one time. So I have to believe that one day the grandkids will do the same thing. And in the mean time I call my Mom if not every day then every other, or when I can find her at home. So I guess right now I think I wish I was suffering from the #1 growing pains, we’ll all get thru the number #3 growing pains.
Mom how have you dealt with all of us, I never heard you cry. I’m just curious how you did it and still are!!!!!