I believe when you make changes to your home it should always represent your personality, your style, it should complimate the person that you are,when this is done you will not only be happy with your results,you will let others see more about who you are.which ever room or rooms you redesign should bring a sense of warmth and security, a sense of being a hideaway from the world outside. many times after married couples have children, they pay little attention to keeping their bedroom alive and exciting. it should be the center of attention in your relationship, in the bedroom your relationship can take on a deeper level of togetherness if nurtured. adding soft lights, candles, flowers or plants. maybe adding music at times instead of television can put more focus on the person in the room than allowing the television to take away from your focus.then adding plants or candles along with bubble bath or softener with a nice fragrance can make an atmosphere of relaxation and peace, leaving the outside world behind. allow yourself to slow down and remember to take time to enjoy the small things we tend to take for granted. enjoy exploring that person you have lost contact with long ago. you will find you are still there.