An Abusive Relationship Can Be Prevented
edited: Monday, February 20, 2006
By Zenith Elliott
Rated "G" by the Author.
Posted: Sunday, June 15, 2003
Become a Fan
There are so many people in unhealthy abusive relationships. Time is an important element in getting to know someone...use it wisely before you get in over your head.
Stop! Slow down before committing yourself into a friendship or relationship. More times then not we blindly take people at face value. We make assumptions that what we see is what we get. When it comes to love and or the need for friendship, caution is carelessly thrown to the wind. We take more time and energy investigating our doctor's, lawyers, investments and nutritional intake.
Getting into a serious committed relationship
should be a well informed decision. Time should
be allotted to get to know the person. Questions
should be asked and answered. Family and
friends should be met. A variety of life situations
should be experienced before handing over the
key to your heart.
Listening to your inner voice should be a
priority. We all have an inner voice and free will.
Free will to say No, this doesn't feel or seem right.
If we spent more time listening to that little voice in our heads, we wouldn't experience half the regrets or disappointments that we do.
Don't be afraid to have boundaries and guidelines.Never think that it is O.K. to allow someone to impose their will on you if it makes you uncomfortable. A healthy relationship enhances your life, it doesn't diminish you.
Pay attention to warning signs.
1. Unexplained or unnecessary anger.
2. Smothering you and your space.
3. Wanting explanations for every detail
of your life.
4. Being secretive about their self, past, family,
5. Too much information about the above
7. An over abundance of phone calls.
The above mentioned warning signs are just
a few of the things to pay attention to. Anything
that makes you stop and question is worth looking into further.
Always trust your instincts and intuition. Take
time for yourself. Get to know you. Know your likes and dislikes. Find out what you want and expect out of life. If you feel bad about yourself work on you before getting serious with anyone else.
People that abuse are cons, they look for prey.
Even though they may be good at what they do
they are bound to make mistakes. Once they are
given acceptance they hang on like leechs, sucking the life out of their victims. If you are careful, take your time and pay attention you can avoid or dismiss this type of individual before damage is done to you or those that are close to you. The sick mind doesn't think that you can see, hear or think. You have to stay prepared, not paranoid, just aware and prepared.
Never let your childhood, past mistakes, religion, or " well meaning " friends and relatives seal your fate. You do have a choice in the destiny of your future. You have a right to happiness, that is something that money, people and material possessions can't buy. You and only you makes the decision concerning who and
what control will be administered in your world.
If you are currently in an unhealthy relationship,
don't resign yourself to gloom and doom. If you
really want out, if you really want help there are
many options at your disposal. Everything may
not be peaches and cream , it may be hard some
days. We can all do bad by ourselves you
don't have to allow someone else to help you
along. Peace of mind and freedom from abuse
can be obtained. Take the necessary steps ...
Don't become and don't remain a victim of an abuser!
Below are some links to websites:
Want to review or comment on this article?
Click here to login!
Need a FREE Reader Membership?
Click here for your Membership!
|Reviewed by Bonita Quesinberry
|You must get back to your writing and posting, my gorgeous daughter! Just letting you know I am here and was so glad to hear from you. Also, get your buns back to posting at All poetry, too. LOL!
I love you! MomB
|Reviewed by Damaa --
|Wow, I recently wrote an article about an abusive relationship. Good information that people need to take heed to more often.|
|Reviewed by Tami Ryan
|Generally speaking, this article has the right intention. As a counselor who works with victims of abuse every day, I have to say that abusers aren't necessarily "cons", - not as a blanket statement. I invite you to read the article I have posted in my den entitled Who Created This Monster? Hopefully, it offers a bit of insight into one who abuses.
Thanks for speaking out against abuse.
|Reviewed by m j hollingshead
|thought provoking article|
|Reviewed by Ch'erie de Perrot
|Very good article and extreemly good advice ~Z~ I appreciate it.
|Reviewed by Annette Mckenny-Harris
|This is a very good article. There are so many people who are being abused, but are afraid of leaving because of loneliness. Thank you!|