All summer long in different cities, families gather their unwanted items such as furniture, clothing, dishes, children's clothing, pictures, tools and miscellaneous collections and display them in their garage or their yard for sale. It's an organized event with their "garage sale today!" and "yard sale" signs on every near street corner or busy intersection corner hoping for a successful sale. Some actually hope that all these items will be taken away, removed from sight, and if something doesn't sell, well, "let's just mark this as 'free' so they'll take it away." I think that's a good idea for large items. And, of course, what isn't sold, load up the car or the truck and donate it to your local charity source.
November was emotionally challenging for me and the thoughts and memories resurfaced over the Thanksgiving holiday. My mother would have been 80 on November 19 and my father would have been 78 on November 4. I lost my mother 10 years ago and my father passed away in April this year.
When a person has suffered a loss of a loved one, the emotional effects of such cannot be boxed up, rested on a shelf, or placed on the pavement of a yard sale. Sometimes I feel it would be great if we could do just that to help with the sorrowful effects. We could look forward to the spring and summer months knowing there's a place to get rid of the sorrow, pain or hurt because we're going to put it in the yard sale. Then, we'll be done with reliving the effects, especially when a holiday arrives. Sure would be easy.
If we could take the effects of a loss and place it on top of that card table that finally had to go, it might be more consoling. And maybe, in a small way piece by piece, we are doing just that when we finally let go of items we don't need. In this life, we have to be able to bear up under anything, even the smallest of circumstances. It's all in the way we choose to look at matters. We can each decide how we're going to look at life, what we're going to endure to make life what we want it to be, and how responsible we're going to be for all our shortcomings.
So, whether we decide to put the tea stained tablecloth in the yard sale or drape it against the table for another holiday meal, we do what we need to do to comfort and face the subject of loss.