I’ve just attended a very interesting talk that took me on a whirlwind tour of discovery and enlightenment, as all good talks should.
The speakers were Eliyahu McLean and Sheikh Abdul Aziz Bukhari, good friends who were born on opposing sides of the Middle Eastern conflict, and who are working with a multi-national, multi-religious team to encourage peace and healing in the Holy Land. They and the courageous people they work with are developing relationships across the angry divide that brings real hope for peace in their unhappy corner of the world.
As you may imagine, it was one of those eye opening experiences where you found yourself pondering and mulling the bigger issues instead of worrying about the size of your butt or state of your hair.
At the event I picked up a poster of Jerusalem which is very large and I wasn’t sure whether I had room in the house to hang it, then it occurred to me to cut it up and make a smaller collage of the pieces I particularly liked.
This in turn made me think about a frame for the collage, which led to me realising that I haven’t finished my vision board.
My mind then turned to cosmic ordering and I realised that the main idea of a vision board seems to be to get what you want out of life. The house you want, the car you want, the job you want, the lifestyle you want and so on. Where do other people come into that vision board, where do they come into cosmic ordering? Why do we only envision for ourselves?
It may be because you can never change the destiny of another person, we all know that we have free will coming out of our ears, but by the same token is it really right to micro manage your life and wish for fantastic things for you and those you love without at least trying to cosmically order some of the things we all really need?
We order up the things we want and the abundance we believe we deserve, and we forget that there are millions upon millions of people out there who don’t even know that they’re supposed to be ordering up the good stuff.
We forget that there are vulnerable people all over the world – including in our own society – who have no one to care about them. Helpless poverty-stricken people who don’t have a soul on their side, food on their table, rain to grow their crops, or a tablet to cure their ills.
We forget that where we want a mansion they just want a roof; where we want a sports car they just want a bowl of rice, where we want to send our children to ‘the best’ schools they just want their children to live.
Where we live in peace and order up a Ferrari, they live in war and poverty and starvation and would try to order up hope if they knew they were able to do so.
We forget that all the time there is fear of differing viewpoints, all the time we nurture old hurts set in motion aeons ago, all the time we have and others have not there will never be peace and prosperity throughout the world. We in the West forget that our societies should be beacons of hope, not oases of abundance. We forget that it is because we live in the fortunate West that we are able to have vision boards for the good things of life.
It is a good and healthy thing to believe that you deserve the best in life; it is an unbelievably selfish thing to forget that so does everyone else. We blithely say that “it’s a small world” yet we forget how small it really is and that at the root of everything, in times so far gone by we can barely imagine them we were all one; we still are.
We are the ones who know about these things, and I cannot believe that the universe would consider it to be interfering in free will if as many people as possible asked for peace, equality and freedom for all. In fact the universe might sigh with relief that at last more people are getting the point.
These thoughts then took me back to a workshop I did a few weeks ago with the inspirational Tim Freke who started the Alliance for Lucid Living. At that workshop he paired us up with a stranger, gave us a short relaxing meditation, and then asked us to look into each others’ eyes for what felt to be about ten minutes.
At first it was hard, I’d never looked at anyone in my life for that length of time, but gradually it became easier. As we all looked into our partner’s eyes we started to see not the external image but through to the reality of the person and we all came to realise that for the first time ever we were connecting right to the soul of someone else.
I could not begin to imagine how I had never known this total stranger before or how I could possibly let her go now, and I understood in my heart and soul that she was me and if I hurt her I hurt me.
I’m doing pretty well with my writing and getting published on a regular basis, yet for all that I don’t think I have the words to convey the depth of what I experienced looking into that lovely lady’s eyes.
One of my mantras is that it is one thing to understand something intellectually, but another to truly understand it in your heart and soul. When you understand something with your mind you can so easily mistake that for real understanding, but it isn’t real until you feel it.
Putting all this together I now know that the people in war-torn countries, in poverty stricken countries, in disease ridden countries, and in all the fortunate developed countries of the world are me. There is no such thing as a singular ‘I’ only a global ‘I’.
I now know not believe, not understand but feel that every total stranger I meet and every unknown stranger I will never meet is me. I know that I can’t have a vision board that doesn’t send out the thought that world peace will happen, that world abundance will happen, that world health will happen, and so on. I’m going to have two vision boards in my house, one for us and one for the world.
I’ve believed for a long time that we shouldn’t separate ourselves out from others on the basis of colour, race or religion. Colour is about the need to be protected from the sun to one degree or another – it’s nature’s miracle sunscreen. Race is about imaginary lines drawn on a map thousands of years ago by people whose names I don’t know. Religion is always something started with good intentions, and then interpreted by humankind until the original hopes become the future’s excuse to disagree violently.
We should remember that if we love our children, our partners, our families, friends and animals then so does everyone else everywhere else.
We should remember that if we’re hurt by violence to our countries, our people, our religions, our loved ones or ourselves then so is virtually everyone else everywhere else in the world.
We should know because we feel not intellectualise that everyone in this world has a divine right to exist in peace, and a divine right to abundance in all its forms, and we should be prepared to cosmically order for ourselves and each other everything that we all deserve. It cannot be interference in free will to care enough to ask.
You only need to think back to the events of 9/11 or 7/7 to realise that however remote another problem may seem or however little it may have to do with you personally it can still have a devastating effect on your life.
I’m not so naive as to believe that there are no undeserving people, I abhor anyone who does violence to anyone or anything but the truth is that there are infinitesimally few undeserving people in this world.
There are different values and standards, and different social mores that can seem inexplicable if you’re not born into those societies. It is true that some cultures find certain things acceptable that could never be acceptable to another culture, and some things that are acceptable to certain people within our own small society are completely unacceptable to the rest of us. That’s the way of the world.
Yet taking all this into consideration the vast, vast majority of human beings are decent, kind and deserving. In the equally vast majority of the time we all want the same things – health, happiness, wealth and peace for ourselves and our loved ones, and our countries.
A very wise tutor at Bath Spa University – Dr Iftikhar Malik – once said that the moment you put a border of any kind around something then the human condition says that what’s inside needs protecting and defending; whether that is a fence around your garden or the border of your country.
He said that humans should have the right to simply walk across the land until they need a boat or airplane, get on one of those, and reach the next patch of land and keep walking because it’s all one world. I feel that he’s right.
If we turn the mistakes of the past around and look at the positive side, we can realise that we now live in a gloriously multi-national, multi-lingual world full of healthy diversity and a richness of learning and experience that we can all share.
We can mix with different peoples and we can enjoy those differences and be fascinated by them, or we can fear them and fight them.
We can make a vision board for ourselves or one that envisions abundance for everyone.
The whole idea of cosmic ordering is that you send out for what you want and then the universe sends it right back to you. What would happen if millions of people the world over cosmically ordered peace and abundance? Why wouldn’t the universe send that back to as many people who will accept that as possible?
Even if only part of the world’s population ordered peace the universe would at least be able to send back more peace, then maybe more people would start ordering up peace and joy.
We should do this thing because if we believe that the universe can respond to our individual needs why on earth shouldn’t we believe that it will respond to global needs?
Let’s ask for peace, abundance and health for all humankind. Let’s ask for mutual respect, mutual admiration, and mutual fascination with and for each other.
If we realise that everyone on this planet is part of a global family then it will become impossible to hurt a living soul for any man-made reason.
If everyone shares in the joys that the universe can offer we won’t have to be frightened that someone will come and take our joy away from us.
To anyone reading this that dismisses me as an unrealistic idealist I say this – I want an ideal world for everyone in it and however difficult that may be to achieve there isn’t a single thing wrong with that desire. It’s only while we refuse to believe it’s possible that it will remain impossible.
However, incomprehensible differing values or beliefs may seem the problems arising from those differences won’t stop until we all have the courage to listen and the love to understand.
The two ‘I’s’ in Vision Board are the singular I and the global I – the collective ‘we’. Let’s start by putting the ‘we’ into vision board and cosmically ordering something really worth having that will make everything else so much better!