From the NEW BOOK: TWELVE WAYS TO PLEASE AND KEEP YOUR WOMAN
by author RAYMOND STURGIS
RESPECT HER SPACE
One of the major reasons relationships or marriages dissolve, because couples become incognizant of when to give each other space, and ignorantly give too much space. Far too many men are bulldozers; they want to know everything their women are doing. The reality is, men that are in love, develop low self-esteem, thoughts of inadequacy and become untrustworthy of their women. If there is no trust, how can love exist? It is ironic that people can be sincerely in love with one another, but do not trust another. Every little change one of the couples makes to their appearance or behavior, the other is wondering what person is influencing their change.
Thus, everyone needs personal time, to reflect, revaluate and meditate on important issues. However, when it comes to dating someone, we have a propensity to spend a great deal of time with that person, fearing someone might take our place. Now, in some instances this is true , if a woman is spending most of her time with you, other potential is missing opportunities. When you are in a committed relationship or married, your woman needs friends, and family to invigorate her sometimes, and you need to respect her space. Disregard the fact that you may not like them or vice versa, everyone needs someone to talk to besides the ones we are in a relationship or marriage. Smothering your woman, will undoubtedly make her discontinue respecting you, liking you and soon leave you. Trust goes both ways, and if you are too insecure to trust your woman, you need to attend motivational seminars. On a more important note, untrusting your woman, sometimes evoke terrible circumstances. More men are becoming ‘sucker-struck’, and stalking and watching every move of their woman. I do not understand the history of your relationship or marriage, however, if there were problems that are responsible for your behavior of distrust seek help. If your woman has cheated before, and this is your reason of distrusting her, fine. If you have cheated and you believe she is going to pay you back something awful, seek counseling. You have to love her to forgive her, and she has to love you to forgive you. You cannot progress without learning that love and forgiveness are imperative for longevity. Domestic violence is high, and the results are scary when you think of how millions of women need personal protections orders from men that claim they love them. It is hard to stop a woman from cheating, once she decides she is going to cheat, however, you can make it easy for her to leave you by being jealous and untrusting. Sorry to remind you, but everyone gets on each other nerves sometimes, and space is the best thing since make up sex. Let your woman feel free, she has already made her choice in you. If you go stirring up a hornet’s nest, no telling who will get stung, therefore, If you go looking for trouble, in her purse, cell phone emails or on Facebook, you likely will find it.
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