Behavioral patterns in our culture can sometimes tell us a plethora of information about people. The fact is you can toss logic in the preverbial garbage chute of love, when waxing philosophical on the subject. There are many differing types of people with differing ideas on ethics in this and other cultures. Thus begins the Treatise of the Sexes circa 2003.
With our ever-changing soceity, one must be careful not to overstep one's bounds. It's important not to cross the line of what is deemed "normal behavior". How does one do that? Now that is probably the best question of all. In the old days, what was thought to be the "right" thing to do could and might be perceived as sexist, macho, domineering, possessive behavior. For example, 20 years ago a man could open doors or slide a chair for his significant other/dating partner. Nowadays many see it as a possessive trait. How such is seen is beyond me. In this day and age mind games have become commonplace. If you aren't alert and on guard, you will fall prey to one of the most often used tactics.. the eyelash bat. Yes, some women ( note- not all, in fact I've met many good natured women who don't try to use their SO/DP ) will use certain movements to attract in order to bewilder. Dating has become a testing ground for future husbands and fathers. A notion that to be perfectly honest, scres the hell out of me. Frankly, it's difficult enough to get close to someone, let alone to be drawn in and quartered for inappropriate actions.
People can pretty much be classified into different groups. For women there is the consumer, the inquisitor, the apathetic drone, the peace keeper, the "woory wart" and the wise matriarch. The wise matriarch is one whom is strong, yet sensitive. She is compassionate and a truly wonderful soul to behold. Clearly the idea woman because she won't allow herself to be exploited just to keep the dogs at bay. She has a mind and will use it but won't go out of her way to harm others feelings. The consumer is relentless in her pursuit for numero uno. Selfish, egotistical, "gold-digging", a horrible financial planner ( since she leaps from banker to banker ), and most of all has the personality of a sea urchin. Which usually relates to her only being social if the result will be to increase her net worth. The peace keeper is a strong judge of character, usually honest and blunt. She is like a shield of fortitude. However she will tolerate abuses to keep the tensions down. She will take abusive behavior if everyone "else" is not fighting. A serious drawback as no one can respect her for continually going back to the "bastard" who keeps abusing her. Oh no, here comes the Inquisitioner... This personality archetype is one of disdain and all those who know her shy away from her. She could get a confession from Mother Theresa or Ghandi. She is strong, virtually bulletproof but has the personality of a junkyard dog. Her compassion rates somewhere in between a rottweiler and a wrestlker named George "The Animal" Steele. She makes no friends because she is constantly perfecting her interrogative styles. The only good point about her I see is that she can stop you from lying, since she will know about 10 seconds into any conversation. the others need time to make that determination. The apathetic drone is a difficult one to assess. She doesn't much care about anything. If it causes a conflict she just lets the guy win. If he stays away she's happy..sort of. This personality trait is usually quite common, as she leaves her SO to make all decisions. Definitely not one I'd want to be with. Lastly is the "worry wart", whom I find to be lacking in self awareness due to her constant negative thinking. She finds things to worry about. If she cannot find anything in her own life she locates the source for her worrying from air pollution to the price of tea in china. Every woman falls into 1 or more of those categories. After all, its only natural to have a multitude of characteristics. That is what makes us each individuals. Above all things, all men should remember that what we say may sound to us like a pebble being tossed at us, however to a woman it may feel like a boulder. If we are more conscious about what and how we say what we say, maybe we can unlock the keys to global understanding.
Now for the guys. Yes, here come the bullets flying. In an attempt not to be biased in my categorization of the sexes, I need to think about the average man and split his personality into about 6 archetypes. The brute, the whiner, the sociopath, the celver curmudgeon, the knight, and yes we cannot forget the jackass. Lets face it fellas, we can be asses. The jackass needs no introduction, as he is seen daily.. somewhere. It's the surest bet in all of eternity that you can always find this undividual. The brute is the guy who struts along the beach as if he's God's gift to the opposite sex. His ego level is comparable to the national debt. Usually a low IQ accompanies this individual. The whiner is weak, lacks self esteem ( almost always ), and is generally a pathetic lifeform wasting valuable oxygen. The lack of a backbone makes this archetype the most annoying. The sociopath is probably the most dangerous archetype. He is primal, with the libido of that skunk Pepe Le Pew ( from Bugs Bunny cartoons ). The dangerous part about the sociopath is that he is quickly angered, usually consumes enough alcohol to be a stockholder in the beer industry. The problem with him is he is most likely to be abusive. His nature is what inspires fear and keeps some really fantasic women from finding happiness. Rather, he forces some women to live in fear for their lives. This archetype is one I would love to see become exint in our soceity, as any who would inspire fear and violence toward women should be bludgeoned and shot many many times. He is generally sparked by a light of intellect. With this intelligence, he is logical, yet cynical. Never thinking about others' feelings is his drawback. This is what usually gets him in trouble, which is why he needs a woman who can complement his intellectual dogma and keep him in line while not controlling his very being. There is also the Knight, a comapssionate yet strong soul. This archetype is a rare one, mostly because he believes in chivalry. This archetype definitely is my favorite, as it's the "doomed champion". He is generally sensitive to women's needs, respects the opposite sex in a gracious light. Most of all, he is a fine individual of great caliber. However, his drawback is neing naive. He is generally used, taken advantage of, and tossed aside. It's truly sad to think about really. He could very well be perfect for caring for another yet the sociopath and the jackass ruin it for him.Again, as I stated before every man falls into 1 of these categories at the very least. However, most men exhibit several of the archetypes. For example, 95% of all men are at least 2 pewrsonality archetypes, and the jackass always surfaces in thier lives. This is not to say all men are jackasses, but rather we tend to be asinine to others at some point in our lives. Some more often than others.
Next, I wish to discuss the most absurd experiences I myself have witnessed. The fear factor, as I would like to call it. It is the only logical reasoning I can find behind it. Women ( and some men, although much rarer than the former ) who remain in abusive relationships. This is even in times when an honest, kind natured soul is willing to help them without wanting anything from them. It's an occurrence in my own life that has befuddled me to this day. The only reasoning I myself can see is that these women/men live in so much fear that any change they feel will result in catastrophe.
The truth of reality is the real problem between the sexes isn't that we're so different. In fact we're basically the same. However, it is the lack of compassion and concern for another human being that leads to conflict. If we qare to understand each other, we must sit back and become more open minded and listen. Eventually we will remove the veil of hostility and open the door to transcendence of the soul. When we do, we may be surprised at what we can accomplish. Perhaps even world peace could be achieved. Well, let's just start with consideration for the opposite sex. After all, the rest of the world is a few leaps ahead and we should concentrate on the basic issues before tackling more complexed situations.