It’s time girls started taking half of the responsibility for men being assholes. That’s right. I said it. I can hear the guys cheering and the gals hissing and preparing to claw my eyes out. Before you start sending me nasty hate mail, take the time to read on.

Now, I’ve been called a feminist by many. I am all about empowering women and seeing them do great things, but with great power comes great responsibility. Maybe the comic book fan in me is showing , but I’m serious. There’s more to a girl demanding respect for herself than just screaming at guys when they act like....well, guys.

I can’t express how tired I am of hearing girls whine about how they were wronged by a guy when in fact they slept with him almost immediately, after he made it clear he didn’t want a relationship, or even waited until the guy was drunk to make their move. It’s different if the guy has been leading you on for a while, dating you, or acting interested and only after sex disappears or tells you he doesn‘t want to be involved. In those cases, he deserves every name you can throw at him.

Some girls just don’t get it. No matter what the “agreement“ is, or how many times a guy has told them they don’t want a relationship, some girls seem to have this notion that their stuff is golden and the minute they give it up, the guy will automatically be starstruck into wanting or loving them, and that he will turn into prince charming.

These girls seem to think that if they have sex, it automatically means the guy has to repay them by committing. When they don’t get their way, they want to throw a fit and blame the guy. I guess that’s easier than admitting you did something stupid.

See, guys are fascinated with this thing-it’s called sex. If you drop your pants and lay it out before a guy, especially when he's drunk, he’s going to take you up on the offer. Does this mean he’s an asshole? No. It means he’s a guy.

You can’t go calling him names, smearing his reputation, and hating him afterwards. Well, you could, but it’s almost like setting out a nice Big Mac in front of a homeless person that’s craving a nice meal, offering it to them, and then calling them a thief after they eat it because they didn’t give you a couple bucks for it-because guys are always craving sex, whether it’s been 10 years or ten minutes since they last had it.

Here’s a relationship tip from your old Auntie Jessie. Guys, like girls, want something of value. They assume if you’re giving it freely now, you probably have before.

Thomas Jefferson once said, “Go on deserving applause, and you will be sure to meet with it.”

Have some respect for yourself-and act like it- and guys will, too.