Childhood 'psychiatric' Disorder L.D.D. (not what you expect!)
edited: Sunday, September 10, 2006
By susie harrison
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Posted: Wednesday, March 05, 2003
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While modern day 'shrinks' come up with more and more alphabet soup disorders for normal children, here is a balance to that order...common sense!
'If there if no medical test, there is no disease!' Pediatric Neurologist Fred Baughman MD.
New Disorder L.D.D. Lack of Discipline DisorderL.D.D. has become very common in the last 20 years. It is often mistaken for other ‘psychiatric conditions’ of children and adolescents. Prior to past 2 – 3 decades children with this disorder were primarily from single parent homes. AND today too many children come from homes with out a father figure who loves and disciplines (only out of love). LOVE YOUR CHILD ENOUGH TO SAVE HIM/HER!The symptoms of this newly RECOGNIZED disease are the following:Inattention, hyperactivity, impulsivenessNegative, hostile, or defiant behaviorFailure to follow directions at HomeFailure to follow directions at school (sometimes they do in public, but not in private)Defiant towards authority figuresViolent towards caregivers-kicking, biting, screamingDisplays of anger when they don’t get their way.Nosebleeds from extreme anger (my child)Uncontrollable ragesThrowing things at people or to break thingsUsing foul language towards parents (mostly) and perhaps teacher/caregiverLack of respect for othersOther defiant behaviorMYTHS How NOT to handle children with these new founded ‘psychiatric disorders’:Calmly ask the angry child ‘what are they feeling’ before, during and after an attack.UNDERSTAND how the child is OUT OF CONTROL and KNOW it is NOT HIS/HER FAULT. (take blame of child and put it on-self)Belief that the child IS NOT responsible for their own behavior and actions.Telling the child he HAS a ‘disorder’ (excuse) for his behavior (this allows child to increase or continue this dangerous behavior).Parents are encouraged to believe they have failed their child emotionally or in some way.NEVER physically discipline the child, ‘violence only breeds violence’.If necessary calmly and gently restrain you child by hugging them while they act out.Put them in time out in their rooms (discipline to calm down), and hold the door shut by the handle, stand their for half an hour while child fights you for the door, throws all objects (lamps, stereo’s, alarm clocks, family photos) around the room and breaks them. Always remain calm while child destroys property and harms others.When child hurts other children explain nicely to everyone he has a disorder such as ADD, ADHD, and is on medication or will be.When the child finally exhausts himself, hug him and tell him it is NOT his fault.Take child to politically correct ‘psychologist’ and place him on tons of medicines that have been reported to later cause potential long-term harm. OR as in the words of Pediatrician Dr. Markello, put him/her under chemical mind control.Ignore side effects of medication…child is NOT getting worst or having hallucinations. Believe this medicine is helping child long term.Allow society (school districts, counselors, and therapists) to force you to give child medicines even if you have concerns.ACTUAL PROGNOSIS IF YOU FOLLOW PRIOR GUIDELINES:WHEN child is placed on pharmaceuticals you MAY see some short term improvement, but then you may notice a child becomes worst and suffers from terrible side effects.Child will be labeled at school and use his/her disorder as an excuse.Child will grow up self-centered, his IQ will drop, and most likely he/she will end up in under mental health hospitals or MH treatment for most of his life.Child will grow up never taking responsibility for his own actions.Child will always defy authority figures, even those who REALLY care about him.Child will end up in the legal or foster care system (where he will only get worst).Child will grow up with no morals, values, or concern for others.Child may have attachment disorders and not have healthy relationships with others.Most will not go to college or lead successful happy lives.Parents will also end up with ‘psychiatric disorders’- depression, ‘bi-polar’, obsessive/compulsive, etc.REAL TREATMENT AND SOLUTIONS:Prevention (only real cure):When child is young enough to crawl set boundaries.Crucial learning skills develop between ages 1 year to 5 years, if you miss it, those years will be lost. LOVE you child enough to set the PARENT child relationship up during these years. YOU ARE THE PARENT, not his 5-year-old buddy next door.During 1-5, teach the child that you love him by guiding him gently yet firmly, but providing CLEAR boundaries and limitations.Child needs to know you are the BOSS. You are responsible for his outcome, no matter how the politically correct society attempts to take away your tools to do the right thing.Child may need a spanking on the behind during these crucial years for dangerous or disrespectful behavior…don’t be afraid to spank your child WHEN IT IS NECESSARY. It is better to spank your child on the behind to correct him when he is small than for him to live a life in the mental health system or in prison.Consistency in discipline. Be sure you have a method of discipline that you remain consistent with.WarningCount to threeThen follow up with effective discipline every time…with what ever form of discipline YOUR instinctive discretion guides you to do…time out or a spanking. Child has to know you are BOSS. And when done, and child has been given some time to think about behavior, let him know he is loved, but bad behavior will NOT be tolerated.Put a list of rules and chores on your refrigerator and read them daily. Follow them with out fail. Provide your child with a full life and schedule. This will keep him or her busy even at an early age. Make a list of chores (age appropriate) and insist they be followed. Get them involved with outside activities that teaches them social skills such as sports (even for small children) like swimming lessons, Story Time at library, other.A consistent wake up time, meal time, naptime, and bedtime. This provides them with stability and security.Do lots of FAMILY activities together inside and outside of the home. Quality time, quantity time, DISCIPLINE, stability, and LOVE is one recipe for a happy, successful child.If you are firm with your child when he/she is little, by the time he/she is 6, the child will know what his/her boundaries are, what is expected of him/her, and what is appropriate behavior. If you miss these years…you will be in trouble.KEEP YOUR PRIVATE LIVES away from the scrutiny of society and government. They are out to get into your business and tell you the IMPROPER ways of child rearing. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR CHILD, DON’T LET ANYONE TAKE THAT AWAY!WHAT TO DO AFTER CRUCIAL LEARNING PERIOD:Immediately attempt to take the prior steps. It will be extremely difficult at this age to teach your child the new rules, but it is you only hope. THIS IS YOUR FAMILY, YOUR CHILDREN. Keep discipline at home; do not go to outside authorities other than perhaps your church for help.Any outside agency is not going to give you tried and true relief. In fact once you go to outside authorities for help; (schools, teachers, counselors, most therapists, ‘psychiatrists’, probation officers) you will most definitely become part of the ‘system’. Your child will be drugged, and you will be put under a microscope. The chances of keeping your child at home will be minimized, your child’s future will become uncertain, and you will eventually become a disorder yourself.Get your active child involved with sporting events, especially those that teach self-discipline and social skills (acceptable behavior)-football, baseball, softball, dance, swimming. Keep them busy.Expect them to get good grades, pay attention in class, and to behave! Give them no excuses. Private schooling is often your best choice if you can afford it. They have standards and expectations of each and every child in most cases.TEEN YEARS:At this point your only real option would be to send your child to Christian boarding schools such as Heartland Ministries or Military School. These places insist children learn to work hard, be responsible for their own behavior, respect themselves and others, and most of all learn they are responsible for their own destiny.L.D.DLack of Discipline DisorderDon’t let your child get this!Disclaimer:Written by Doctor Mom. The author is not a physician and since this is NOT about physical ailments is not giving out medical advice. Dr. Mom has four children and has tried every trick in the book. Dr. Mom is now living proof of the Hell of LDD that has caused her life and wishes to help others with solid advice on how children were raised in the past, before government intruded in our private lives.SusieQ
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|Reviewed by Deb Brandon
|Today was my first day to take on the responsibility of caring for a child diagnosed with LDD, so I got on the internet to see just what this was! Boy, am I glad I found this article! This child will be 6 in May and has recently been put on "blood pressure" medication by a "psychiatrist" to calm him down. (???) I was told he does not play well with other children and was kicking his Mother and (would ya believe?) the "state" had the Mother take him to a psychiatrist. And I do STRONGLY AGREE...........when the government took prayer and discipline out of the schools, the whole school system (along with the children) went to pot!|
|Reviewed by Loretta Weber
|I believe my children have these symptoms. It is my fault because I didn't discipline them enough when they were young and their dad disciplined them too much. So now they are both messed up and probably going to be in therapy the rest of their life. Anyway, with prayer they should get better. This is a good article as it speaks alot of truth.|
|Reviewed by Lois
|Susie: Your advice and sensitive handling of the subject: LDD, is very reasonable and easy to read. Please keep up the good work on this subject, as it merits speaking out and making others aware of these so-called 'disorders'... many of these 'disorders' seem to be invented by the schools to control 'unruly' children, backed by the AMA and NMH systems, at the behest and profit of the pharacuetical companies, and paid for by the parent who failed to dole out reasonable disciplinary measures to start with. We need some serious 'reparenting' in this country, teaching and encouraging discipline of children that stays within the boundaries of discipline... not punishment.|
|Reviewed by Holly Dreger (Reader)
|WOW! This is incredible! Same advice I give my patients........ I agree with you totally! If only more did what you have described here! EXCELLENT EXCELLENT ARTICLE!|
|Reviewed by Harticulate
|Right down my alley! It seems everyone you know and their children have some kind of disorder and are on drugs for it. Legalized drugs with side effects are ok, because the government is making alot of money off of them while sedating the consumers.
|Reviewed by m j hollingshead
|thought provoking article|
|Reviewed by Leah Harp
|GREAT article, but from the grandmother that was accused and convicted of "loving too much"--be careful using the 4 letter 'l' word, it really starts a mess with the court system--do they even know what it means or how to do it?|
|Reviewed by Aimee Dutkiewicz
|As always Susie you are TOO MUCH!!!! This is so great. Would you consider helping me with my files and info for the group I just started NEPAN.yahoo.com is the place to post. It is still on moderator status for the first few weeks. SUE you are JUST TOO COOL. I am so glad to have met you and privledged to read your work.|
|Reviewed by Kathleen Stockwell
|Hi Susie, I totally agree with this. You are right about the real treatment and solutions. I must say, however, that following that program is what causes a lot of parents to lose their children. The government needs to butt out and let the parents raise the children. There does need to be something to help truly abused children, child welfare doesn't do this, they are way too busy removing children from good homes to be bothered, they are more interested in ruin than aid, and big government isn't the answer. Kathleen Stockwell|
|Reviewed by Kenya
|When children do not get the proper discipline (or that every action has a consequence), then our children will believe that they cannot and will not be punished for misbehavior. Unfortunately, as these children become adults, stealing or violence will result in a criminal offense that would be much harsher on them than any spanking or grounding.
Great article Susie and thanks for exposing what so many of us believe that parents are losing their rights "to parent" their children.