How to find a good man!
edited: Thursday, June 08, 2006
By KISHA GREEN
Rated "PG13" by the Author.
Posted: Thursday, June 08, 2006
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Attention: Single Ladies
How to find a Good Man!
I knew I could grab your attention with a title like that…lol…Single ladies saw that heading like it was a flashing neon sign and immediately wanted to know how and where they could go and get one like a good man was a gallon of milk at your local convenience store just waiting to be brought. Only if it was that simple huh?
I have asked different woman on where were the good men? They all quickly replied that they were either liars, playas, broke, had bad credit, lived at home with their mama, in jail, homeless, secret drug habits, HIV+, on the “down low” or just had “babymamadrama”…lol… So seeing that what men are about these days I thanked the Lord I was married and not single because I too would be scared to date.
I thought to myself this couldn’t be true . Could it? I have been with my husband for nine years and I know my “boo boo” wasn’t like that. So I decided to conduct my own little investigation.
I spoke with a lot of different woman in various age categories who have been unsuccessful in finding a good man. Why? Was the question that plagued me?
I observed that woman made these mistakes when it came to dating;
Ladies that think they can find Mr. Right in a bar/nightclub.
Ladies who dress provocatively thinking this will get a man’s attention (It does just not the attention you are seeking).
Ladies believing that it is all right to go home with a man you just met and sleep with him.
Ladies that play too many games and or carry around baggage from past failed relationships.
Those were the most frequent errors that I had observed but it doesn’t just stop with that either. Something else just as troublesome was ladies wanting this all together perfect man, when they aren’t that put together themselves. I suggest putting the shoe on the other foot. Are you in the same situation that you are seeking from a mate? In some cases the ladies aren’t. What I am essentially saying is try to bring something to the table of mutual interest besides what is between your thighs!
Speaking of sex the numero uno mistake that I see is that a lot of ladies are willing to settle for being the sloppy seconds of becoming a booty call AKA “the jump-off”.
Believing that if you make yourself available to this man he will eventually realize that you are the “one”…NOT!!
The only thing he will realize is that you are the one to call for sex and if you keep trying to act as if you have anything more than a prearranged sexual relationship he will cut that off as well!
So what I am principally trying to convey is that before you step out into the dating scene of seeking a suitable mate. Check yourself first, in order to find a man and love him unconditionally, first love yourself unconditionally and with a formula like that you can’t lose. Now when you do step out you are putting your best foot forward!
OK…Stepping off my soapbox…until next month that is…lol
Peace & Blessings
Web Site: KishaGreenOnline
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There are only a few good men left...:)