Forgiveness is recognition of an error in thought that needs to be corrected. In the bigger picture of course there are no mistakes or errors and therefore forgiveness is unnecessary.
For us mortals; we are governed by our own thoughts and emotions. Words are powerful and are the second step in the creational process of thought, word, and deed. Emotion or feelings separate us from machines and therefore words can empower or disempower us. They can cripple us or cause us to do unthinkable things. Forgiveness can completely heal a dysfunctional body or bury a perfectly normal one.
What is the magic behind the words that forgive?
My father died when I was just about a year old. My mother raised us in poverty and never remarried until we had all left home. I lived with two other siblings, an older brother and a younger sister. From early childhood I understood what was meant by a pecking order. We were a dysfunctional family and had little to share and most of the times not even each other. I didn't really like my mother that much. As a person, she fell short of my ideals and as I grew older and was able to talk to her as one adult to another, my opinion only slightly changed. Ten or more years before her death, I divorced myself from her. I didn't want to be like her and did not enjoy being near her.
Without going through the gamut of emotions attached to my relationship with her; I finally realized that she did the best she could with what she had; her personality, and the circumstances that surrounded her. I did not create these things and it was not for me to judge her. Her life had purpose - her purpose - and neither I nor she knew what that was.
Along the way I felt some remorse for how I had treated her while she was alive. I didn't attend her funeral at all. I decided that it was about time that I forgave her. I understood that she did her best within her limited capacity and so I had a little subconscious talk with her and forgave her. I told her not to feel badly for any lack that we had, and that I was grateful for the life that she gave me. I know that if she were still here in this world she would have felt much better hearing those words from me; it's never too late to forgive.
The truth at the highest level of understanding is that I did not have to forgive her. I do not know what her purpose in this life was. Forgiveness often negates purpose - it is judgmental. She would more than likely have accomplished her purpose before she died. Her purpose and the circumstances of her life were known to her before she was born. Her family, friends, and others were all opportunities whom she chose in order to facilitate that experience. All life is intimately connected and all things work in harmony to make possible any action; she acted appropriately for what she wanted to experience.
Forgiveness is an acknowledgment of an error in thought - I made a mistake for judging her. In mapping out one's destiny; there are no errors. In life there are no wrong turns. We may not know the purpose of a turn or event in our lives however, there is a reason for them. We can all look back to sometime in our lives where we took a wrong turn and it turned out to be the right one.
Forgiveness is not for the soul, it's for the ego. Although we may make a few unexpected turns along our chosen path; we may also step on a few toes as well. Forgiveness is a sign post, a flag, or caution sign for us on a conscious level that we are not focused, unless through the power of intention the wrong doing was deliberate. In the realm of the conscious; forgiveness is expected and desired - it's about feelings.
Before you can properly forgive another, you must forgive yourself for the error. Because you are the creator, any transgression is your creation.
The real value in knowing these things is that you will start working in your best interests when you understand that you are really interacting with yourself. If you have allowed another to transgress, then their purpose has been served, and so has yours. An apology is not really necessary; a thank you would be more appropriate. So if you believe you need to forgive; then forgive yourself first. There is really only one mind - it is the universal mind - the mind that we are all sharing in individuality.
When you do something to another, you are really doing it to another version or aspect of yourself. You will always receive the reward or consequences at some level of your consciousness. Do unto others is a misnomer because there is no other - there is only you - and you are doing it to yourself.
If you look at things from the greater picture, you would know that no one can do a thing to you unless you agree to it at some level of your consciousness. If you put yourself in a position for someone to do you wrong, then they have actually done you a favour. Forgiveness then would be inappropriate. All of us, you, me, and everyone else are simply opportunities. We are here to help each other facilitate every one of our experiences. We need each other for these things to happen.
From your position this may seem ridiculous; making no sense to you. However, this is a very enlightened spiritual aspect of our existence. It may take more understanding to accept the concept.
Spiritual awareness comes with the willingness to be more aware. That is why you are reading this article now. You are looking for something more enlightening than what you are already experiencing. With the awareness of your spirituality; life begins to change for the better. You see things differently and your purpose, your reason for being, becomes more apparent, and life in general is less of a struggle and more of a wonderment. You will begin to see the beauty in all things that you once only considered bad, wrong or incomprehensible.
The bottom line on forgiveness is that it is not necessary, unless of course you think it is.