Romantic getaways and heavenly destinations sound like an enchanting hideaway for any couple. However, many couples who are on the brink of extinction are often under the mistaken impression that a romantic getaway can improve their relationship and melt away their problems.

On a romantic getaway, a couple is whisking themselves away to a fantasy destination where they may believe all the troubles and problems in their world will melt away. While a romantic getaway vacation can temporarily improve a rocky relationship, it is only a band aide for a problem that the couple must take proactive measures once they return from their romantic destination in order avoid becoming relationship road kill.

If a couple wants to improve their relationship they will need to start working through to the heart of their problems, working on communication and trust issues. Seeking out a qualified counselor to act as a buffer and intermediary can vastly improve a couple’s view of each other, and learning to reconnect by using a technique I call Soul Gazing will help put the spark back in their eyes and that dating feeling back in their hearts.

The Soul Gazing technique I am referring too is much like the game many people played as children of starring into another’s eyes, without blinking or speaking. However, in this case, the object is not to make the other laugh, but to gaze into the soul of the other person. 2-3 minutes to start works best. Once the couple has that down, they need to work into 15-minutes and this technique will actually help the couple break through some of their barriers.

Couples need to understand that love is a decision that is made daily. It’s not a feeling (that’s all about actual chemical’s that flow through our bodies when we are in the flush state of crush. It’s what I call The Chemistry of Love.)

Something else couples need to remember is that love is a gift, it’s not a right. Gifts are not meant to be taken lightly (except the ones that are meant to be funny of course!); a gift is something one person has given to another with great thought behind it.

A saucy vacation or romantic getaway won’t release old pain and wounds that are caused by a lack of communication and broken promises; it will only provide a temporary patch that will eventually wear off, exposing a deeper and more festering wound. Take a healthy and proactive role in your relationship if you want to insure a long and healthy life with your partner. Studies have shown that a healthy and happy relationship may also lead to a much healthier and long lived life as well!


Jaci Rae’s humble beginnings and formal training have taught her the value of relationships and how to make them happy. Now a successful Entrepreneur, Rae is an award-winning singer and best-selling author. When she isn’t dishing relationship advice on some of the top ranked relationship / dating sites, Rae conducts seminars and teaches in the U.S. and around the world..



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