Everything Your Family Never Told You About Self-E
edited: Wednesday, January 23, 2002
By Suzanne E Harrill
Posted: Friday, August 04, 2000
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18 things many people did not learn growing up about self-esteem.
Everything Your Family Never Taught You About Self-Esteem
1. A high IQ, physical strength, beauty, or achievements do not insure emotional health.
2. It is healthy to love and nurture yourself before saying yes to others’ wishes or needs. Balance giving and receiving.
3. It is important to identify and to get your needs met before fulfilling your wants.
4. Set emotional boundaries that support you. You have the right to say no.
5. You are worthy of love and respect; it is not based upon what you do, but, who you are.
6. You are of equal value to all other people, no more or less worthy. Stop comparing yourself.
7. If you act bad or make a mistake you are not a bad person; separate You from behavior.
8. To feel better about yourself or change unwanted behavioral patterns, look at your conscious and unconscious needs and guiding beliefs motivating you.
9. Stop blaming, criticizing, or value-judging yourself and others. Watch your shoulds and oughts.
10. Be honest with yourself so you can make choices that support you, using your heart and head.
11. You and only you are responsible for your life. Only you can work through and forgive past hurts.
12. Say positive, supportive, encouraging things to yourself with your self-talk. Correct limiting beliefs.
13. Your attitude determines how well you manage your challenges to be able to enjoy your life.
14. Self-awareness is important to help you change and grow. Admitting what you do not like in yourself opens the door for healing. You are capable of learning new things to help yourself.
15. It empowers you to know your inner self. Your true self can direct your life, enabling you to overcome your conditioning and help you live from a place of integrity, balance, and strength.
16. Make amends when you have hurt another. As you grow in loving and forgiving yourself, you can not intentionally hurt another.
17. Know and accept your strengths and talents. Use them to grow into your full-potential Self, living a life with meaning and purpose.
18. When you love yourself, you are a mirror to help others love themselves.
Written by Suzanne E. Harrill, M.Ed., LPC, LMFT (713)661-8284 call for free catalog