Intimacy... two types.
Heart of Woman- Intimacy
There are two types of intimacy, physical and emotional intimacy.
For men and women they both have needs but they are expressed differently.
Men think physical intimacy is emotional intimacy. If she is there and still having sex with me, she cares mentality. Men see the physical act to as a way of getting closer and feeding the emotional side of their personality. To conquer, the hunter, the provider.
For women, physical intimacy is an extension of the emotional intimacy. So what is emotional intimacy?
Feel safe, special and secure. But as people get to know each other they share several aspects of their lives. Intimacy involves being able to share your past. How did you arrive at this point in life? The joys, the victories, the pains, the sorrows and the fears. All of the past affects the present and the future as well.
But in sharing the past, the other person can never use the information to control or manipulate the other. There has to be freedom to share. To gain intimacy the past can never be used to throw in the other person’s face in an argument.
There is power and magic in being able to share where a person has been and has it validated by someone else. To cherish the past without fear or concern that it will be used later to disparage the other person.
Then there is intimacy to share dreams and goals. To know what you want out of life and that the paths are the same. Can we walk this path of life together and supporting each other or does the path always leads in different directions?
There is another area of emotional intimacy. Can I share how I feel today? Can I express my feelings and emotions and know they will be received and validated. Many times once the feelings are expressed they disappear. It’s the ability to share the joy, fears and even anger Now that makes it go away. For in sharing the emotional can and should go to the other person. Two bear the feelings of one. Intimacy is the act of two becoming one in soul and spirit.