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By Poet Pablito   
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Last edited: Friday, February 23, 2007
Posted: Friday, February 23, 2007

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Scars- a look at the trauma people can and do experience and how it affects them.


I was thinking more about scars that people have…normally the scars are the ones we see after a person has received a physical injury…the body recovers but there is an outward sign of the pain that was experienced. Of course not all injuries completely recover. They can be permanent reductions in person physical abilities.

Emotional scars can be much this same way.

I think about all the things people have shared with me about emotional pain…the loss of a loved one…. The loss of a brother or sister… a abusive dad or mom…. Years of sexual abuse the hands of someone that should have been protecting them… the rape or abortion that invaded the life of someone… the witnessing of a murder or death of someone close to them… the divorce and breakup of a marriage or relationship…the sexual dysfunction of serial consequences that left the person needing more love not less…. The battles with depression and addictions… the list continues of things that cause emotional scars…

Some of the scars heal…the person feels the injury and come out of the event with a form of pain but recovers…they heal. They suffer a serious event in their life and find a way to recover. Sometime this healing of scars comes from someone else being able to understand that pain and validate that experience that caused the pain and then finding a way in that validation to allow the person to release that pain…in the releasing of the pain healing takes place…. Much like in the movie Meet Joe Black…”where the guy says...she knows everything about me...and accepts me…that is real freedom.”

I believe this to be true …real freedom is to be able to share everything about yourself and have it accepted, validated and loved. This is real freedom.

But not all emotional scars do heal in fact everything we walk past people in life that are still suffering with the injuries of past experiences. Hey we never really know who is the person that is suffering because we can not see into their souls…. and those who suffer sometimes will never tell anyone or share what it is that they are suffering from….people tend to suffer in silence. Fearing that no one will really understand or no one can accept that had happened. These emotional injuries cause permanent damage to the person and can become severe in their consequences…with loved ones, with family members, with friends or employers… the reduce the ability we have to love others and our ability to function I the world.

The very that that can heal the person is the very thing they can not do… share the pain.

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Reviewed by Karen Vanderlaan 2/23/2007
really valuable write--in my memoir i wrote about a rabbit my mother cut to peices-a friend who read the book just dropped off a rabbit to me--i was 5 when it happened, i am almost 50 now and her actions were so meaningful i was reduced to tears--thank you for this write

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