edited: Tuesday, April 23, 2002
By xainab dadabhoy
Posted: Wednesday, April 10, 2002
Become a Fan
Wish Someone could define it with absolute accuracy?
We usually hear people discussing their relationships with various people such as relatives, acquaintances, family, loved ones. Their problems, the nature of their relationships and so on and so forth.
How are relations built? When we move in a crowd, or enter a new arena or are admitted to a new environment, we usually scan people and out of the lot, one or two people click and the relationship grows.
When relationships reach a certain point, we hear people saying that..."She knows that I love her...Why do I need to say it again and again"?
To hear this is so sad......that doesn't contradict the fact that people who are weak expressionists are not worthy of their relations but like all beautiful and natural things, if not cared for, can wither and tear off...same is applicable to relations too. If small and petty things like appreciation, love, affection, care and serenity are not sprinkled on and off, the relationship starts to become natant and the people have a nonchalant attitude towards their feelings and loved ones.
To pass on a loving smile or a thoughtful glance, a reassuring hand squeeze or a caring look can really keep the rhythm going and prevents your relationship from becoming stagnant.
Usually, if noticed carefully, it is visualized that catastrophies & cataclysms in life are not that nerve wrecking as small petty things in day-to-day routines. A person can battle all financial and physical stress but a little shaky in-house atmosphere or a small un-called-for arguement can really mess someone's life. Meaning that life has more to it than just work, money and success.
Its a general misconception that making someone feel good takes in a lot of effort and dedication and people do not even want to fathom the thought of making their loved ones feel special . But the sad part is that making someone feel worthy doesn't require anything more than a simple telephone call when someone is astray, a simple e-card when someone is downcasted, a SMS message when someone is lonely or a rose when someone is irritated. These gestures on an average don't take more than a simple act of movement but their impact is long-lasting and referrent. On an average also, if people are made to realize that they make a difference in our lives and their presence is of utmost importance, the feeling experienced by the recipient is out of this world.
Thus, do try to keep the relationships fresh and glowy as they truly deserve to be and spare a moment or two to thank God for blessing us with such genuinely caring people and never delay the act of making someone feel special. Do remember that it is not always what you say that hurts,
but the words that you don't.
God bless You all and grant me the serenity and sense of making my loved ones feel worthy. Amen.