The Attraction of Empowerment
edited: Monday, July 09, 2007
By Imara Shika Tamaa
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Posted: Monday, July 09, 2007
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You know, I don't understand, nor do I feel this empowerment thing some sistah's use or say they must have in their relationships. It seems to have come from a left over-politically correct-philosophy-called ERA that sistahs picked up. Some brothers call the ERA movement (Eve Rules Adam)...loll. I will also look at the sistahs point of view.
What it seems to mean is - to stand on top of your man's neck, by requiring them to give up part of themselves and I don't mean his d**k...loll. To say it another way, brother if you love me unconditionally, and then I might return that same love to you, but more than likely I will continue to love you conditionally, anyway. No matter how good you act and how much you do for me; you still have to live by that code of loving me unconditionally. It's no wonder with those types of sistah's; a nice guy will always end up last, or as one woman indirectly said, "the brother is a fool." A lot of men would call that man a "pussy" or a "wimp", but some woman will call him the "do it for the sistah man", "The Captain Save a Woman", or "Captain save a Ho"! I say again, it does seem like nice guys with some sistahs end up last and laughed at. OK, what about the sistahs who ends of last and laughed at? That woman who is not seeking empowerment, but just a simple thing called love and affection. The sistah who spends her hard earned money to put groceries in his refrigerator and to keep a meal in his belly. The sistah who helps to decorate his home, only to find that some other woman may be enjoying the benefits of her cleaning the home for him and the beauty of expressing her love for him. Who's used now? I'm talking about the sistah who isn't trying to stand on her man's neck, but trying to help hold him up because he is a reflection of her and the relationship they are trying to build. What should we say about them; "Nice gals finish last" too!!
Now, I constantly hear all the time about those brothers who are the bad boys or those "baby boys", all thugged out. Sistahs can't directly or indirectly seem to get empowerment over them, yet they find them attractive and will sacrifice almost anything for them i.e. have babies, give them keys to the car and so much more. Now let's not forget about those brothers who want empowerment over their woman. Men who find women attractive and will do almost anything to lure them into their harem of women. Men call them hotties and whatever other names that they have for the girls they find so attractive. There are brothers who, when they have gained the attention of the woman they want, they many times want to control that woman, by saying things like, "you're the only want I want", "You're different from all the other girls" or even "you're mine and you belong to me". In other words, they say things that make a woman feel oh so special, but if you follow them home, they have 20 other women they are telling the same thing. They usually become angry when the woman has someone else in their lives and allow their jealousy to show. And there are sistahs who say and do the same thing to brothers.
I have come to the conclusion that what's really going on is called attraction and no matter what you do what you say and/or what you offer doesn't have a dam thing to do with it. And most of the attraction is usually based on the focusing of the out side i.e." body body" and the materials they own, not the focus on the inside of a person i.e. soul and/or heart.
Thats why its important for good brothers to find and choose to be attracted to good sistahs and vise a versa... So both can finish first!!!