Why do guys cheat? Find out reasons why bad guys cheat and why some women still continue to be attracted to them.
Why Guys Cheat: Why Bad Guys Cheat and Good Guys Don't
One of the most painful experiences one undergoes in life is discovering your boyfriend or husband is a cheating guy. It becomes even more painful if you strongly care about, or deeply love, him. Why guys cheat is a question that demands a deep and introspective research and before we start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people may be simple glances at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that is displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I am single’.
According to an infidelity poll conducted by Womansavers.com, 22% of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, 70% of married women did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity, while another 3% of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse. In the year 1997, 22 percent of men admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past and 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.
At what point a woman believes her partner is cheating on her, is largely dependent on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, who does not feel good about herself and is full of insecurities, might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman, while another who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable with herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.
Before answering the question ‘why do guys cheat’ we need to understand as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment hardly bears any substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it is if he can be trusted to draw the line that matters. Some guys are just born to cheat and it is in their very nature to sample what is on offer. Such men are hard pressed to form a lasting relationship but it is usually apparent from the onset as to what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in on.
For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional invasion it keeps on enhancing their ego to go for more. One of the most important factors that determines the difference between a good and bad man regarding fidelity is to take a look at his parents. Did he come from a loving family with monogamous parents as his example? It is a well-known fact that children learn by example, even if it is subconscious. Boys who are aware of their father’s infidelity, tend to eventually accept this behavior as normal, thus repeating the adulterous behavior as adults. The same goes for boys who witness their mother having affairs.
So why do women continue to be attracted to the “bad” guys who cheat? Perhaps it is because they secretly wish to tame or change them. It is so important for women to understand that if a guy cheats on a woman, there is a very good possibility he will cheat on you. However, women frequently think that they will be the exception or that the man cheated because he had good reasons. Men always have good reasons for cheating so ladies, do yourself a favor and pass up the bad cheating guys for the good faithful guys. He may not always be as exciting and dangerous, but love and trust always outweigh danger and excitement in the long run.
Written by Dating Expert, Stephany Alexander, B.A., Author, Women's Speaker
Credentials: Stephany Alexander is the founder of www.WomanSavers.com, one of the most popular women's sites on the net (top 5%) receiving millions of hits per month.
* Founder - highest trafficked abused women's message board on the net
* Founder of Largest Online Database of Men in the World
* Author of 'Sex, Lies and the Internet,' A Survival Guide to Online Dating http://www.sexliesandtheinternet.com
* Dating expert on numerous talks shows and call-in radio shows
* Author of over 50 articles on online dating and relationships
* Author of 22 dating and relationship quizzes
* Internet Polling Expert on relationship and dating issues, surveying over 350,000 women in on-line polls
* Creator of 9 women's comedy cartoon e-cards, including one claymation
* Creator of 6 women's online games, one arcade quality
Ms. Alexander is frequently called on by the media as the nation's leading Dating Expert. Featured on: CNN, CBS, FOX, Sirius Satellite, KROQ, KIIS, Mike & Juliet Show, Good Day Las Vegas, Esquire Magazine, Wall Street Journal, NY Times, and countless radio shows.