They are everywhere....
Coming close to Angels
A new way to anger management
In our lives we experience situations in which there seems to be no way out.
All our brainpower, the ratio, logical thinking, and practicality lead us nowhere but deeper and deeper into desperation.
Since we are humans, we learned to define ourselves by our power to act and to create, to control and to organize our lives actively and not to wait around passively.
Especially in the Western Civilization with its emphasize on productivity and activity, people have a hard time coping with situations that seem hopeless.
“You are what you do, not what you feel” seems to be the basis of all western thinking, thus diminishing the need to sit down in quiet reflection, listening to the voices within ourselves and by that finding a higher power that may guide us through those difficult times.
Quiet reflection and mediation is seen us unproductive and wasteful, because it is passive and not productive in the sense of Western philosophy.
We, being children of the Western World, have difficulties accepting passiveness as a useful means for guidance. Passiveness makes us feel powerless and weak, it makes us helpless and thus, angry.
This anger turns towards other people or the circumstances involved in the situation we are in at that moment. Often that anger turns against ourselves.
Anger is a powerful force. It is self-induced poison of the mind and the soul. It can eat us alive. It is the reason for emotional terrorism against ourselves – feelings laying in wait like snipers, attacking when least expected. Anger is the emotional bomb, about to go off at any minute, destroying everything around it. And coming from within ourselves, we are like suicide-bombers, who get blown apart in the attack.
But as all feelings, anger has its reason, its use, too. Feelings are never “good” or “bad”, they just are. They are the warning signs of our soul.
Anger tells us that something is definitely wrong . It is the signal that we did not pay enough attention to our own borders and limits. It tells us that we feel used, betrayed, cheated and sold by others, pushed into corners, misunderstood and misinterpreted. It tells us that somebody came close to old wounds and touched some fears deep within ourselves.
Like all feelings, anger throws us back onto ourselves, because we are the origin of our own feelings. They come from within us, not from the outside and thus can only be worked on within ourselves.
We cannot change the motives and actions of other people – only our own – and anger can eat away our soul if its inert power is not used for the only positive effect it can have – the change within ourselves.
This change within ourselves can be a long and sometimes painful process.
It takes all our responsibility and our emotional strength to go and face ourselves as the one and only reason for the reality we experience.
We each are our own cause and our own reason, and we are each to ourselves our own solution.
In that process we all need help: we need help in facing and accepting ourselves and giving up control over others and their feelings and we need help in finding the peace of mind we need for that long way.
We need something that helps us accepting that sometimes nothing can be done, but wait. That this time of waiting is the time given to us to use for ourselves and our inner healing and development.
In times like that the acceptance of any kind of higher power can be an enormous help to us. It can help us in giving up control, because we are not the ones who change anything, except ourselves. It will give us the power to let go of others and concentrate on our path.
The believe in Angels as guiding forces, as benevolent spirits, who are always with us, can be a way out of our endless helter-skelter of feelings and the round-about of our thoughts.
The believe in Angels is not linked to any religious denomination: it just is the visualization of that higher force that guides us.
It is the deep believe in being protected by something or someone, who is kind to us and means us well. It appeals to the inner child in us, which is in deep need of such love, guidance and protection, especially if we chose the difficult way of finding ourselves.
And haven’t we all experienced “angelic moments”: moments in which somebody came to us like a gift from heaven, somebody soothing our pain by giving us love, somebody showing us wisdom, somebody seeing us, our “real” self, somebody making us laugh again when we were crying and somebody whose touch brought life back into us in moments when we felt dead? Somebody whose touch healed all the pain we have ever felt, made us “whole”, if only for one single moment in time? Somebody giving answers to questions we never have asked aloud, somebody seeing our desperation and need and not turning away in disgust?
Somebody giving us the necessary wake-up call that lead us back to the path of health and well-being? Somebody who accompanied us for a span in time: a second, a moment, a month, a year – but whose presence made all the difference at that special point in our lives?
An “angelic encounter” cannot be measured by continuance, it is nothing which we can make last by willing it to last, it is not linked to one person,
It cannot be measured on a basis of “give” and “take”, it refuses all definition as a “business deal”, it cannot be waited for, nor sought-after.
It just can be experienced as what it is: a moment in which somebody does not ask about costs, or advantage or gain or pain or hardship, but just turns to us and is there just for us.
Those people we encounter along the way, are humans, just like we are, they have their strength and weaknesses just as we have them and they make their mistakes. But in the moment in which they are Angels to us, they transcend that human weakness for a small time span and become something larger than just themselves.
Not being aware of doing that for others at that single moment in time, makes for a true “angelic moment” – being send as an Angel to someone is not about enhancing our own value or ego. Unawareness of the good that is done is a necessity.
The ultimate beauty in those encounters lies in the fact that not only the one who has been “visited”, feels better after the visitation, but that the human being who gave something like that, feels that his or her life has become richer, fuller, more satisfying after giving. The warm glow in our hearts long after the encounter tells us, if we have been Angels for a short moment in time. The satisfaction after such a deed can hardly be measured by any standards and it can hardly be put into words.
It is one of the main sources of happiness in life and thus something we all need to experience.
The awareness that we all have the Angel within us, that some higher power will send us to someone who needs us, at the right moment in time, will help us to be kind to ourselves and on our lacks and weaknesses.
The awareness that at the right time an Angel will be send to us, helps us to be patient and calm with ourselves and the long path in front of us.
The awareness that some higher power will see to the equal contribution of both giving and receiving, will help us to overcome our urgency and the pressure we feel in our attempts to be “good” and to do right by others.
It is a way out of the anger-trap if we learn to lay some responsibility into the hands of a higher power and thus free ourselves.
Discovering the Angel within ourselves and all around us, makes us less angry and kinder to our existence on that planet.
ugerbig, February 2004