How to Start a New Life
edited: Monday, January 04, 2010
By D. Scott Arant
Rated "G" by the Author.
Posted: Monday, January 04, 2010
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New Year, New Start
How to Begin Anew
1. Be as a child again. Look at a child and spend some time observing their actions. This is not a time to judge their behavior but just to observe them. Notice children are always in the moment…in other words…they don’t have thoughts about the future or things coming up…they just live in the moment. This is what Jesus meant when he brought a child in front of his disciples and told them that they must be as a child to enter into the kingdom of heaven.
This is very important. Most adults have learned to look to the future for happiness…when I get this mate, when I get this job, when I whip this addiction, when I get my new home, car, girl, and baby, and the list goes on and on. This keeps you from experiencing the beauty of the NOW.
Take every moment as if it was your first moment. Don’t have any expectations of yourself or anyone else as this keeps you from living in the moment too. This is a time to discover yourself. Breathe in the air from outside and take it into your lungs and realize you are alive. This seems so childish and simple that many will try to complicate the process. Just enjoy the now…forget about the past…it is certainly gone and irretrievable, only in the present will you find God, yourself and really see others.
A child is also without judgment of itself and others. Learn to let down all judgments about yourself and others. You are not the judge. Jesus said to “judge not” lest you be judged. We have relegated this scripture to others more than ourselves. Don’t be your worst critic, be your best fan!
A child is innocent…and so are you. To the deepest of your core, your soul, your spirit there is nothing but innocence. There is no judgment of this aspect of you. We are spiritual beings that are having an earthly experience. Your humanness can goof up and error and can make some decisions that don’t serve your inner self or soul. Learn to quickly forgive and release yourself from this judgment, for it can bind you into more addictive patterns that will not serve your life.
Let go of all preconceived ideas about how life should be for you. This is a hard one, but not for a child. A child only embraces the very moment. It does not have preconceived ideas about reality or what NEEDS TO HAPPEN…it is only caught in the moment. If you analyze carefully all you’re so called “needs” you will find most of them are not needed. Let go of them…start with an empty hand. Full hands cannot receive anything new in their lives…but an empty hand will be filled. You came into this world alone and naked, and you are sure to exit this world the same way. Empty yourself of all the baggage. Learn to live well within your own skin. You started with nothing…only you…that is how it will all end too.
A Child does not know fear, until it is learned. All fears are usually learned events or experiences for us. Many of these fears we have were learned and taught to us by our beloved parents. They taught us to avoid things so that we would not be harmed or hurt. Their intentions were noble and good, as they did not want us hurt or harmed. However, many of the things that were taught us are needless fears that need to be let go of. Healthy fears are great and should not be eradicated, only ones that are unhealthy and that keep us from experiencing life.
Take a little time to analyze your fears. It is not wrong to be cautious…but not over cautious. If you are always afraid…ask yourself why? Do these fears have any merit? Do they serve your life? Are you happy when you think about these fears? Are you living life safely just to avoid pain, or are you living life fearlessly? Are you so afraid to make a mistake that you don’t even try? Are you afraid of success, money, power, or life in general? Why, or why not?
I have met a lot of self-assured people that seemed to put on a good face of confidence and resolution that were riddled and crippled with fears. Get to the root of them and let them go. They do not serve your higher purposes as a spiritual being having a human experience.
2. Learn to forgive yourself first, so that you can forgive and love others. This process must begin with you first…then extend to all others. Why you first? Because you must begin to love yourself first as Jesus said to his disciples… Love your neighbor, as yourself. This seems so simple, but I have found it is one of the hardest things for us humans to do…forgive ourselves.
What does it mean to really forgive ourselves? The words “forgive” as Jesus spoke about forgiveness has the root meaning of letting go or releasing something. You must let go and release yourself (forgive) of all your past. Any event, situation, or episode that caused you to hold a judgment against yourself must be released for you to experience inner healing. THIS IS BIG…DO NOT TRY TO FORGIVE OTHERS UNTIL YOU HAVE FORGIVEN YOURSELF FIRST.
Once, you have done this work, you can then go introspectively into forgiving others that have seemingly hurt, damaged, or caused you pain and suffering. Take a moment to review your life and see if there are others that have brought pain and suffering to you now. Take every event and relive it again in your mind. Open up the wounds again to feel how you felt at this moment. Anger might come up at this time. Instead of passing over it…now is the time to feel it. Allow this hatred and anger to surface. Once, you have fully felt these negative emotions, it will take the edge, or charge off of it so you can deal objectively with it.
Journeywork is helpful to relive these events and purge them from your consciousness. This is a great tool to help you forgive yourself and others. It is a process of guided introspection into yourself. It is a process that can bring you much inner healing and forgiveness. I strongly suggest you try some journeywork to discover who you really are at your core.
3. Picture your life up until now being like a backpack that is strapped to your back. You slowly begin to fill this backpack with stuff…good, bad, ugly…all kinds of stuff. We have all kinds of judgments stored in this proverbial back-pack that really don’t serve us well and weigh us down. Learn to let go of all the “stuff” you thought was so important. If there is fear of losing anything it is a sure sign you have “stuff” that needs to be dealt with and removed from your back-pack.
As we get older, and stuff more “stuff” into this back-pack our lives begin to be so encumbered and weighted down that we can hardly move anymore. It is time to empty the back-pack and let go of things. This again, goes along with the idea of forgiveness and non-attachment. The more you are attached to something, the more power and energy you give it. This becomes a disempowering of your true essence which is like unto God, your creator.
All the things you thought were so important are stuffed in this proverbial back-pack. Take analysis and thought what is in there. Is it necessary for you to have it in there? Why is it necessary? Ask yourself these hard questions. Go even further into introspection and envision yourself not having this item in your back-pack. How does that feel? If it has an edge, or charge to it in the way of feelings, it could be an indicator that you are attached to it. Not all attachments are bad, but not all serve your inner self. Get rid of all “stuff” that does not serve your higher self…which is the part of you that is deeply connected to your creator, God. You will feel lighter as you do this process. Again, journeywork can help here too.
I have a question for you…If you knew that life was not about judging yourself and others actions, and allowing yourself and others to just be…how would it be different? What if you lived your life with the innocence of a little child again? What if you emptied your heavy back-pack and you got rid of all the “stuff?” Would you still be standing? How beautiful would life be if you forgave all your past and others who wounded you? What if you just let it all go and started anew?
You can start anew and afresh my friend. Make a positive decision for yourself this year. If you “fall off the wagon”, or make a mistake or human blunder, just forgive it and let it go. Life can be simple again. Make the decision. God don’t make no junk!